Hi Gracie,
I also found out when I was diagnosed with Ra that a change in hormone levels can cause RA. I had a hysterectomy in 2004, I was 37. I couldn't take any HRT and was also on a med that removes excess estrogen from your system. (reason was because I had a high risk of recurrent breast CA). Anyway, what really helped me through the menopause was the antidepressant Effexor. After about a month I had no more hotflashes or nightsweats.
It's hard going through both I think because of the mood swings with the change in hormones. Not much of an answer but I know how you feel.
Take Care and welcome to the forum
Raven