Posted 12/22/2010 9:06 AM (GMT 0)
Weary,
Sounds like you don't have much to choose from when it comes to rheumotologists. How far is the next town/area where you could find more to choose from? I know it sounds drastic, but I'm kinda grasping at straws, really wanting to help you! I'm blessed to have one of the best RA docs in the country (as long as my COBRA benefits hold out...) and people actually come from out of state to see him! I've no idea where you're located, but we're in Colorado-Denver metro area.
You're not being a baby or a complainer. You have very real, clearly defined symptoms, and why your doctor is choosing to ignore them now is beyond me. Maybe he has a God complex and thinks he's already "cured" you, and when you bring up your continuing symptoms, it shakes his God-like image of himself. Who knows? Also, I've suffered and learned to deal with self-esteem issues most of my life, and doctors have the ability to make me doubt myself and what I know to be true from deep inside myself (in spite of all the self-esteem work I've done for myself).
Maybe if you wrote your current, continuing symptoms all out, clearly and concisely on a list (I'm a writer, so these are the kind of things I do) and shoved it in his face, well, maybe just politely showed it to him, he might see them all at once there in one place and it might "click" in his brain or something. I don't know-it's just a thought. Although, it might really help. It wouldn't hurt to try it.
If you typed your list up, had a little intro sentence or two explaining that you suffer the following symptoms daily (or however often), and follow that part with a complete, clearly defined, bulleted list of all your symptoms-well, this technique has worked well for me in a number of completely varied situations, although I've never had to try it with a doc. People usually respond to a well-written & formatted letter or list, and my experience is that doctors like lists from patients, and nearly everyone responds to professional-looking papers (even a single page) that are typed & formatted properly. I'm trying to think of things that might make your current doc take you more seriously, and this is all I can think of. I'd be happy to help you draft something up, if you like ; ) but no pressure, no worries. It's just a thought.
Also, you wrote that there were 4 RA doctors in your area, but it looked like you only spoke of 3 (the 1 you your GP wouldn't recommend, the 1 who wouldn't give you the time of day or pain relief meds, and the 1 you currently see) so what about that 4th one? Maybe you could make an appt w/that doc for a 2nd opinion?
Going off MTX temporarily, because of the dental infection makes sense. But doing it just to see if you can get along without it? I'd be scared to do that myself. Something in your health care needs to change, clearly. I wish I could be more help. I've lots on my plate now, too, and that makes it all the harder. My prayers are with you. If I can think of anything else that might help, I'll let you know. Right now, I wish you the best, and Happiest Holidays. At least forget about all this stuff for 1 day-give yourself a little break. With love, ladywriter (Lisa)