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Posted 7/19/2008 11:33 AM (GMT 0)
You all have been so patient while our board has been temporarily distracted by this divisive issue.  On board, we've had a few voices calling for and off-topic thread, sometimes loudly and rather rudely.  By email, I've had voices suggesting we just get back to the issues at hand.  I tend to agree.  We need to get back to talking about bipolar. Our purpose is to talk about bipolar in a supportive and warm environment. 

Mommy2ethan is correct, we do already allow off topic threads: the word games and discussions of personal events that don't exactly fit under the bipolar topic.  As several moderators from other boards have pointed out (more on that in a minute) the need to reseve bandwith is an issue.  While I don't believe one thread is going to make that much of a difference I do believe it is our purpose to more or less reserve our board for bipolar topics.  I don't see that Hollywood gossip or recipe exchanges have much of a place on our board.  So we are not going to have "An Anything Thread" and we are not going to have off topic chatter threads in general.  You have several options if that is what you are looking for: email, messaging services, the chat rooms on HealingWell, other forums.

As to the disrespecting of moderators.  Some of this is my fault and I apologize for the recent flood of moderators from other boards.  I asked them for their input about off topic threads, and they all came to look at the message and were (rightly) outraged about the tone of the message. Moderators in general are pretty sensitive to messages which are anything but absolutely polite.  But mommy2ethan was absolutely right -- not having any connection to the moderators makes it a pretty tough pill to swallow when you're being chastised by them.  Not that they were wrong, but several of them were overly harsh.  So for my role in that, I apologize. 

So going forward,

I would like no more messages about this on our forum.  It has distracted us from bipolar topics long enough, and hijacked 3 threads at this point.  I will HAPPILY discuss it with ANYONE via email.  [email protected]

serafena

 

Posted 7/20/2008 2:50 PM (GMT 0)
Wow-- I don't know exactly what's been going on around here, I've been so busy with work...I know we have a lot of new members, but I hope everyone understands what this board is for.  This is my only place really for my bp support and that is important.

Posted 7/21/2008 12:42 AM (GMT 0)
Props for support
:)
Posted 7/21/2008 12:58 AM (GMT 0)
redface
Posted 7/21/2008 3:32 AM (GMT 0)
not sure what crohn's disease has to do with anything?
Posted 7/21/2008 3:48 AM (GMT 0)

M73, while each forum here at HealingWell has assigned moderators, they are all volunteers. When a mod is away for some reason or a board is especially busy, the moderators work as a team to keep all the boards running smoothly. This is the reason you'll sometimes see a moderator from another forum posting here. No one can be on line 24/7, so we help one another out.

Posted 7/21/2008 3:55 AM (GMT 0)
just giving supportive props :)

I am sorry if that came off wrong. I believe in giving support and this just what I was trying to do.

I am all for healing after the whole negative energy, non-supportive situation that was going on...
Posted 7/21/2008 4:30 AM (GMT 0)
While I have not chimed in about the recent sour tone of some comments made by some members, I want our moderators to know how appreciated and loved they are. And that goes the same for moderators of other HW boards. NO member should post, regardless of how they are feeling towards another, if it is not shared with the utmost respect on an open forum. THAT is not why we are here. Like Serafena, and some of the other veteran members have shared...this board is HIGHLY valued, respected and needed. It serves a tremendous purpose in all our lives. The volunteer efforts of our moderators is outstanding and they should only be praised and appreciated. So....to ANY member not getting ALL there needs met on this board (as in you want the off topic issues a part of this)...I urge you to go out on to the www and find a host of already available sites to join in addition to this one. There is room for much out there. But here, the focus is BP, and how it plays out in our lives whether we are the ones with BP, or the spouses, friends, family members..etc. who's lives are affected by this never ending disease in one way or another.

I wish you all respect and love...and look forward to continuing to come here to support, and also be supported by, our collective members. To ALL the moderators on HW....a HUGE THANK YOU for all you do, and keeping the boards pure for what they are here for!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Lives are better for your efforts. LFW
Posted 7/21/2008 12:40 PM (GMT 0)
I think I missed the non-supportive environment. I felt supported here, I suppose if others haven't, I can only say I'm sorry they felt that way and hope things will be better for them.
Posted 7/21/2008 12:51 PM (GMT 0)
I'd REALLY like to end this discussion. It just goes on and on. Please, let's move on and heal. We just fuel the nastiness the longer we linger over it. I appreciate the support, I really do, but I'm waiting for the thread to be locked, so we can't post to it anymore. Please don't make me clean out the thread, I HATE to delete posts (believe it or not). If you have something to say regarding this issue -- EMAIL me.
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