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Posted 10/20/2008 12:57 AM (GMT 0)
 

  This is the first time after 12 years Iam asking advice,when my wife's condition became worse she was violent and reckless.I felt like I was walking on glass.This effected me so much (always wondering when and how she would snap next) that I lost interest in our sex life.While I love Her very much and take care of her I just can not seem to be romantic anymore.Has this happened to other husbands and what have they done to get past it?

Posted 10/20/2008 1:04 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Repo,

I just wanted to welcome you to the board and to HealingWell. Obviously, I'm not a husband, and I'm the bipolar spouse, so I'll defer your question onto our panel of experts...

Good luck,
serafena
Posted 10/20/2008 2:52 AM (GMT 0)
Ditto dude. Been there done that. Will the interest return, unknown. Depends on what she does, like staying on her meds. Mine didnt, so never got back to the sex. Its been 37 years of marrage.
Posted 10/23/2008 5:18 PM (GMT 0)
I'm the wife of a bipolar husband. I know exactly what you mean about sex. I think, for me anyhow, that when they are being mean and unpredictable, we are just not attracted to them at that point. I love my husband with all my heart and soul and love having sex with him...but when he's like that, I really don't want him to touch me. For me, again, he's been so mean and hateful, I just can't move past that in the bedroom. Why would you want to have sex with someone that has said and done mean things to you!?! You know what I mean? Love has nothing to do with sex....I thought for a long time that I was falling out of love with him because I didn't want to have sex...but that was not the case at all. I hope this helps. :-)
Posted 10/25/2008 9:25 PM (GMT 0)
Kristen,
What you say is exactly how I felt each time he was reaching for me. How can I separate both feelings, he hates me so much and then he can't live without me. How can you feel that way?
Posted 10/26/2008 12:08 AM (GMT 0)
My fiance (he is bp) and I do couples therapy...it keeps communication open and the sex alive. I don't know if others have tried it, but it has worked for us.
Posted 10/26/2008 3:47 PM (GMT 0)
I'm dealing with the same feeling toward my wife. On one hand, I want her to be normal and happy (ie: do something about it), but on the other hand, I don't want her to take medication and change just so she's more pleasing to me. It seems unfair and monstrous to me. I also know that she suffers. I don't know what to do. But I feel for you, bud.
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