Thought i would share some good news from the world of Bill. My wife who was in danger of losing her job has beat the odds and kept it. In addition to that i have a new part time job also that will help fill my empty hours until the bicycle shop i love gets busy again.
The best part was that during this 2 weeks of uncertainty and fear (job loss scary 
) i kept it together and was a rock for the family. Before meds i would have wigged out, been completely stressed out, and had my loved ones ready to kill me, It was great being the one who was in control, even if it was with the help of medications. 
This has opened my eyes to my families finincial straits, and i am going to take the part time job (20-30 hrs a week) so i can pay off some of the bills i have self inflicted. Than if this comes up again we can really make it on one pay check. The meds have really helped my spending issues and also how i deal with my wife and her spending issues. I really do feel great.
Also my doctor took me off abilify and is trying me on respidole? respridon? (???? correct spelling anyone???) 
So far so good.
Anyway, i thought you all would like some good news and positive reinforcement. I'm glad to help out reading negative posts and helping people along in life. I just wanted to give out a little hope that you can, if not beat this disease, than declare a sort of truce with it.
Happy Bill