So a little update on us;
My dh is out of treatment b/c of his chronic kidney problem. He'll have to start over once he's able to go back. But he's stable and seemingly more content - he even smiled and told me he's happy to be home! Not a fake smile either. It was nice! So we've moved and are all settled into our new place. The boys are happy to have their Daddy home. So for now the waters have calmed for us.