Hey BD;
Sorry to hear you are in a rough spot right now. I know how hard it an be when you are going thru this kind of thing. I really don't know what to tell you that would help. Just offer affection when you feel like it. Not try to start something up or anything, just throw a hug or kiss on him when the feeling hits you, scratch his back or rub his shoulders without being asked to, just remember you may not get anything back, but you might be suprised too, & just a return squeeze or stroke will do wonders for you. I know it sucks, you are already having to do everything (right there with you) & you would think that this stuff would just be a natural, but this condition is demanding & sometimes everything isn't enough for them. You feel like you just can't win because you give so much to get so little back.
As for the sex part, I can say this, it's a lot harder for a man to "go thru the motions" then it is a woman. If a guy isn't feeling it then they aren't, Having the meds on top of it does not help at all. For me, I can always tell when my wife isn't into it (she usually reminds me before or after too)& it really takes away from it. I always tell her that if she doesn't want to then don't. I would rather have less sex & it be ginuine, then have it more often & her not be into it (then have to hear how much she isn't into it & only does it so I don't cheat etc..). I'm sure it's tough to try to believe that a man doesn't want it all the time, but there are a lot of times when that is the case. Like others have told you, be patient & try to take your opportunities when you can, you may have to do all the work there too, but that isn't always a bad thing. Who knows, in a couple of months he could cyle around & look out! Before you know it you'll be wishing he would leave you alone so you could get some sleep! lol
BTW, how has he been handling his grandfather passing? I'm assuming no news is good news on that front.
Take care & good luck!
Rocket