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Posted 1/4/2009 8:51 PM (GMT 0)
I know it is a sensitive subject, but I need to ask. I feel like I am in sexual overdrive right now. Yesterday I had my wife "take care" of me twice. It still has not satisfied my sex drive. I feel like I could ********* 100 times and still not be satisfied. I want to know if anyone else experiences this type of hypersexual activity. Is there anything you can do to distract yourself and stop thinking about how much you want to have some type of sex?

Any answers???
Posted 1/5/2009 4:24 PM (GMT 0)

  First, you should never consider this a sensitive subject, we all have sex drives, and some are more extreme than others. I for one use excersise and Abilify to help me along. I still have urges, however the urges are much more "muted" (would be the right word) now.  Hypersexuality is part of many bipolar packages, and you cant help how you were born. And its good that you are here looking for ways to help you cope with it. It put a huge strain on my marriage until i started to get some kind of handle on it. Some days are easier than others.

    Try turning that energy in to something else you enjoy, wood working, house work, reading, whatever.  And its not bad to remind yourself that it is not your fault and these urges will pass. In the end i would suggest abilify, it has helped me greatly and im only on 7.5 mg of the stuff.

   Hope this helps.

      Bill

Posted 1/5/2009 5:20 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Cantgoback,

I think the most significant thing here is that it tells me your getting manic. If you haven't talked to your doc about it yet, then it's time for an appt. The extraordinary drive must be annoying, but Bill is right -- see if you can channel it into something productive or creative. But don't blame yourself, it's the disorder, not you.

serafena
Posted 1/6/2009 5:46 AM (GMT 0)
I wish my husband would have just a small percentage of what you have going on now...in the "drive" category. He's got nothin and it's discouraging to be in a marriage with no intimacy.
Posted 3/22/2009 11:35 AM (GMT 0)
BD_spouse

There is much more to intamacy than sex and I am learning that the hard way. I could have sex all the time and it would be unfullfilling to my wife because we have no trust and no intimacy. My drive was down while on Depakote and I was overly sensitive when we did do something and I was so self conscious about it and hated myself for it. I was so afraid that she was going to have an affair. Then I felt worse because I didnt trust her enough and give her the benefit of the doubt that she was committed to our marraige. I think the medication and sex link is very complicated and my doc didnt seem well equiped to discuss it in a meaningful way. Now that I am on Trileptal my hyper drive is back and I resort to self-service to alleviate that urge and to help me relax and get to sleep especially if I hadnt been drinking (Im in AA now). Enough about me, I urge you to keep looking on this board and maybe look into the medication. I wish this subject wasnt considered such a taboo because I think this type of stuff is far more prevelant and the medical community seems ill eqiuped to deal with it.
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