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Posted 6/29/2009 10:52 PM (GMT 0)
I think my bigger issue is between my husband and I.
He always asks "what is wrong with you" "there is no reason for you to be this up set" I am sure there is good reasoning in his questions but I have tried to explain bipolar disorder to him. He has not went to any doc appt except 1 that I know of.
His 'questioning my emotions' I guess the best way to put it is getting me more upset. He don't get me or what is wrong with me and its worrying me to the point where I think I need to leave. Not leave him but stay away right now because I am not myself. I have a 4 year old and what should be a little conversation ends up in an argument because of me.
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Posted 6/29/2009 11:06 PM (GMT 0)
Another thing he knows I have bipolar. So I am the Bipolar Wife! I just don't have anything to tell him right now. I don't wanna end up in some psych ward. I just don't understand why when something happens and I cry hysterically sometimes or just simply cry or get outrageously mad whether at him or the manager at McDonald, when I am not on my meds. I don't choose not to be on them. I beat my self up everyday for loosing the job that gave me my med. Ins. that made it possible to get the meds. Now we are in another state no income its taking its toll.
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Posted 6/30/2009 1:11 AM (GMT 0)
Take him to the Dr with you & have the Dr explain to him what's going on.Maybe draw him a diagram??lol......
Posted 6/30/2009 1:33 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Peachlove,

I'm curious about your husband. It's great he's watching your daughter for the past three years. But knowing that you have a mental disorder, shouldn't he be working harder to find a job? Why's he making you do all the leg work? Is there something we don't know? He does know you have bipolar but he's being mulish about trying to understand what that means. Go to the library and check a couple of books out. Find some relevant passages and make him read them -- try and SHOW him that what you do is part of your disorder. Or, as Snowy suggested, take him to the doc with you, but not your first appointment with this new doc. Keep on reminding your husband about your bipolar if you have to -- apparently he needs to be reminded that he needs to help you a little more.

Best of luck,
serafena
Posted 6/30/2009 1:42 AM (GMT 0)
I went to a few different web sites and pulled info off and printed it. He said he knows but I don't understand what he is going through.
You see he has IBS so he has anxiety problems. Goes to the bathroom a lot. I blame this on me because he often says that my yelling at him causes him to go to the bathroom like when we argue. I am at my breaking point this evening. I am not sure if I can make it to the 7th of july. I am wanting to just cry. I am in a very depressed spot again! and I just don't want to feel this way any longer.
I think he is going to leave but he says he thinks I am going to leave by the way I talk. I understand this, its jus my moods are SWINGING very hard and its going to hurt people around me before the 7th there is always the ER......and that is seeming more and more of the way to go....its just I have never been in the hospital for this!
Posted 6/30/2009 2:10 AM (GMT 0)
I wrote to you a couple posts above
Posted 6/30/2009 3:45 AM (GMT 0)
My husband does the same thing girl...It is a HUGE trigger for us. He is getting better though, but I think it's more for the kids sake then mine. Just letting you know you're not alone, and it's hard for someone who has never dealt with this before to understand any of this, especially how our emotions can rule us, instead of us ruling our emotions, like them.

Lindz
Posted 6/30/2009 7:01 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks for posting...its just sooo darn bad right now. I am thinking of going to an inpatient facility tomorrow. I have thought about for awhile this eve and see how tomorrow is. I don't like the roller coaster effect & I can do nothing about it! NOTHING. I have klonopin but that is for the anxiety this IS NOT anxiety maybe a byproduct of the anxiety. I am not even sure how sleep will go tonight. I feel like a clam that can't sleep.
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Posted 6/30/2009 2:04 PM (GMT 0)
I am so sad for you.  I knew I had problems for a long time.  Anxiety attacks put me in ER.  Husband got that.  But didn't get when I first got bi-polar symptoms.  Couldn't understand my mood swings and my constant fatigue.  Finally got to the point that I was crying all the time, or violent, couldn't function at work and I couldn't get out of bed, started staying home from work, literally felt like I was dying and he took me to my  doc which we both trust.  Tried treating anxiety again but that didn't work.  Doc sent me to pshyche and bi-polar diagnosed.  My hubby was present for every appt.  That is important.  They have to be involved and you have to stay on meds. For me if one med didn't work or had side effects he let the doc know and try another.  I dont' know how many I went through before I found a combo that worked.  My hubby took care of all of this.  He has been very apologetic for not being understanding years ago and he took over a lot of things I was struggling with.  Prior he was basically just here and not participating in household until I got sick.  I had to quit my job and have been unable to work for over a year.  I still have really bad days and am still occasionally suicidal and want to run away or go to hospital, but we have no health ins.  So I talk to my husband and my son.  We work through it.  I am very lucky.  But I rely on my on-line bi-polar friends.  Try to get your husband involved for your sake.  Maybe show him some of the internet posts.
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