ok here it goes (bear with me), ive had a bi polar girl friend for 3 years now, i found out she was bi polar reeeaal quick... i have no idea on her thought process ill say that right now. weve both told each other we want to get married someday after college (were 20 now and 150 miles away from each other.). Now ive come to realize, when shes down, more often than not she'll threaten to break up with me just because we have a small fight. But in the morning she usually forgets/looks past what was said the night before, no matter how serious or minor the fight is. i can promise the world to her and geniunely mean it and its still never enough when she has doubts about
us as a couple. She has struggled with ... and lied about
it for long periods of time to me, she claims she is clean now, but i really dont think she should be doing this because she has ALOT to lose, she is getting a bachelors in nursing at an expensive university and she could lose this if she ever got caught, her parents wouldnt pay for it! Now i know i have a hobby, its my ford lightning, when i get bored, when im mad/sad, ocd; whatever i go and work on my truck or clean it. I have never really known my girlfriend to have a hobby, if i had to pick, it would be her school work when im not there. she gets straight As she is in the top of most if not all of her classes, (when im there its a different story hahaha if you catch my drift). she doesnt really have much that takes her mind off everything else. What this all boils down to is im at wits end! i dont know what to do anymore. Now i realize that guys "dont have feelings" and such but she makes her situation more serious sometimes and makes my feelings or problems less serious. After many "dealing with a bipolar spouse" the 2 points that stick out in my mind are: "get away and run you will be better off" or "smother her love, be understanding and be a good listener". obviously i would of left long ago if i was going to cut and run, but the i just feel like i can be doing more to help her than listening, especially because she sometimes wont share her feelings, or will take long amounts of time before sharing deep misc. feelings.
Im sorry, im venting but i just need some advice
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