How do you handle the brutal crualty?http://www.healingwell.com/community/emoticons/confused.gif

My BP wife had not been feeling well due to some (female problems) but we had made plans with friends to go out and eat at our favorite Mexican place. Anyway, she had talked earlier about maybe not going, because of not feeling well, but it was ok for me to go. ( I did offer to cancel ) I get home from work, she made comment about having my small margarita, and I said" Oh, your going?" And from that, I get accused of not wanting her to go, get accused of meeting a girlfriend there and not wanting her there, I was to sleep in the other bedroom. Asked her several times to please stop this, and go with me. Brought her home a cheese cake, she doesn't want it. I did nothing! What do I do? Does this kind of thing ever just get to much to deal with? I love my wife, but man! She just got approved for disability, and we are waiting on some paper work from a property I have, that is in foreclosure, to complete the process. With that, we can get her a car, and have some more money coming in. Don't know if the money, or vehicle will help matters, because she is also compulsive. Any advice? Does it ever just get to be too much to handle?https://www.healingwell.com/community/emoticons/confused.gif

Thanks Sandy. Yea, it,s pretty crazy! She claims that I'm emotionaly detached from her, and always make her feel unwelcome, and I don't see it. She is a wonderful person to be around, except in times like this. She said my bill from dinner last night was high for one person, pretty much accusing me of meeting someone. (which I didn't) Marriage counseling does not work. She will not follow the suggestions made. It all goes out the window. I am seeking counseling for myself on the matter though. This will probably be my last resort

Actually she handles the finances, and does very well with it. The check book can be an obsession if it is off by a few cents. She has to find the mistake! I just think if there is more to play with, it might become a problem. I will try to keep an eye on it, if it becomes a problem, I will handle it quickly. Wish me luck!

Elk
should have started your own thread, and you should if you want to continue venting here. This is Carvin's place.
I will say this Elk, this woman has stood with you thru thick and think brain surgeries, illnesses, etc.
Marriage is supposed to be for the duration, at least most strive for that. You sound confused as to if she loves you or do you love her, and confuse your lack of physical desire in there somewhere. Women usually do gain weight as they get older, and with the meds, its a guarantee. Are you looking to make love or to have sex, think about it.
"Stuck" housesitting in Montana, taking long hikes with your dog in the mountains. Doesn't sound that bad to me. Better than homeless.
Don't see ANY similarities between Carvin and yourself, to be perfectly honest.