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Posted 4/10/2011 10:32 PM (GMT 0)
This is a long and sad story and I am desperate to understand this disorder. My son is 20 years old and his wife is 20 as well. They met 2 1/2 years ago, while she was married to someone else and had a child when she was 16 from yet another boy. Her mother was bipolar as well, her father committed suicide when she was a baby. She has been sexually promiscuous since she was 12.

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Posted 4/10/2011 10:56 PM (GMT 0)
Their son was born last June. She has extreme bouts of depression and highs/lows. My son loves her dearly. My grandson is still under CPS, because neither one can keep a job or residence. She is extremely jealous and always afraid of him cheating on her and leaving her. He cant keep a job because of the chaos she causes. She cheated on him in October, with their roommate, she has had him arrested 3 times. One night she banged her head against the car until she was bleeding and bruised. She was unaware that there was a witness. This is still pending in the courts. He doesnt hit her, but she hurts herself and blames it on him. He took her back after cheating and then married her in December. They were going to church and things looked positive. Then in February after he got a good job, bought a car and a phone, she started on facebook and then left him for the guy she cheated on him before. She has never been on any medication. In a 4 week period, she was with 5 guys. She called him up crying, apologizing and telling him she loved him, and is trying to convince him the baby is his. He feels that because she is his wife, that she will straighten out and that God will help him. We have been through literal hell because of this girl. Now the baby is with his grandmother, because CPS took him again. The thing of it is, she is a sweet girl and its easy too love her. I keep trying with her, because she feels i am closest thing to her mom, who by the way died of drug abuse about 3 years ago. When she is pregnant, she has no problems at all. Is it possible that there is a pregnancy hormone that regulates her bipolar disorder. She has never been on medicine. My son loves her desperately and when they get along, they are great together. My grandson is suffering now and I am at my wits in on how to help my family. Any advice will be appreciated.

Thank you.
Posted 4/11/2011 2:29 AM (GMT 0)
Is she on medication? She clearly has Bipolar I disorder, the most severe type. She must absolutely get treatment. If not, your son may not have a choice but to leave her. He's only 20 and is too young for this. The chaos may affect him for many years. Has he finished school? If I were him, I'd do whatever possible to get his wife treated by a psychiatrist. I would be a little more patient and pray, pray. If she doesn't stabilize and improve in the next couple months, he may have to file divorce for his own sanity and the safety of his son. Finally, with her sexual promiscuity, he's unfortunately at risk of getting STDs.
That sounds horrible, but is reality. My sister is bipolar, she had an affair, contracted a STD and gave it to her husband.
they're still married, but those things do happen. I hope things get better, I reallly do.
Posted 4/11/2011 1:41 PM (GMT 0)
Our children so pull at our heart strings. All you can do is make suggestions. You can't fix her if she doesn't want to get help. Try to keep the grand-child as much as possible. Also look into some family and friends of bipolar groups so that you may find some serenity through all of this. When we are most worried about others we tend to neglect our own needs. I truly believe their is a loving creator that is running through all our lives and neither you nor them is alone. Being 20 is a dam hard time of life ESP. With a baby and a lot of past trauma. The girl has much to work through. Sending prayers.
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