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Posted 4/30/2011 4:30 AM (GMT 0)
My wife is bipolar and it seems that whenever there is a fight when i have been pushed to my limits I always tell her to leave, then the entire blame is put back on me. She pushes me to the point I say something like" I WAS HAPPY AND CALM TILL i MET YOU" or "You knew what you were getting into when you married me but I had no idea what I was getting into".

She now says she does not trust me because I have told her to pack her sh!t and leave on several ocasions. She is not even aware of what she does when she is having one of her episodes.Is this typical behavior?

Posted 4/30/2011 7:46 PM (GMT 0)
No. It is not a symptom of bipolar. Skewed judgment, yes. Emotional outburst, yes.

I was like that with my ex-husband. I knew exactly how deeply my words cut and I chose them carefully to cause the most damage. Was it because I was bipolar? No. Because I fight dirty in a verbal argument.

She DOES choose what she says and does. Each one of us bipolars must take responsibility for our health AND actions.

Her lack of trust and unawareness can be symptoms. Skewed judgment can cause her to overreact or not understand why you said things.

The only advice I can give you - if you tell her to pack up and move out, make her do it! Don't back out. separation does not equal divorce. You can demand separation until she gets EFFECTIVE treatment. You do not need to tolerate her abuse.
Posted 4/30/2011 8:58 PM (GMT 0)

   Yea abuse is just abuse. My wife did the same to me, and i did the same to her before i got treated. Onc ei got treated it was so much easier to control my emotions and saying hurtful things.

   Tortoise is right, this only gets worse with time. If you tell her to go she needs to go or you need to go. WIthout effective treatment she will only get worse and worse.

  Good luck, Bill

 

Posted 5/1/2011 2:31 AM (GMT 0)
It is common for them to turn things around and try to make them selves the victim. After they abuse us emotionally. If your wife doesn't seek help it will destroy her & everyone around her.

And still with treatment it takes time to even find the right combination. My husband hasn't had the right treatment till this day and it's been 2 1/2 yrs since his diagnoses.
Posted 5/1/2011 1:45 PM (GMT 0)
Mt4 thanks again for your input. Being a victim is what she uses as an excuse. Before I started telling her she need help she treated me the same. So I finally started pushing back six months ago and now she says she doesnt trust me because I also told her to get out several time and even threw her clothes out.
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