I believe she is bipolar II, since the psychiatrist said, she has minor to medium bipolar.
It used to be tolerable, but lately, I am just emotionally drained. Ever since I've known her, she's been a drinker. I was too, but quit about
a year ago. Told her I felt better after not drinking and lost weight. She even noticed my attitude and outlook change. but she still drank daily.
I finally had it and let her know we just weren't going to work out. She stopped drinking and has started taking her meds more religiously. Her attitude has improved but I am still drained. I don't know if I still want to work this out with her. it's gotten so bad, i have recently started taking wellbutrin, because i am so depressed. I think I am badly depressed because i think I am realizing how the rest of my life is going to be. I was never one for big dreams, but I had only one. To get a single family home. All of her income goes to providing for her parents/family and I am supporting her in my townhouse. Her spending habits are terrible. My only saving grace was that I never mixed our finances. She had hers and I had mine, but I have, of course, loaned her money. It's getting to the point that she's starting to saddle me down with debt. It's very depressing.
She's taking abilify and lepro or lexa-something. Recently she cut herself (before quitting drinking and taking her meds). She still gets the urge every now and then, but hasn't done it. One of her main problems, is that she cannot make female friends. She seems to think that she can be friends with guys and it's platonic. She just seems to live in her own world and she is becoming more self centered all the time. I am sure it's the BP.
She's gotten a little better since taking the meds, but i don't think she's taking the right meds. The doctor said, he can't determine what to prescribe as long as she is drinking. Again, she's quit, but since I have no patience for her anymore, we get into pretty bad fights, when she starts off by saying she is going to order a beer. One can't hurt, etc. When I went to the psychiatrist with her, and the doctor said no alcohol, I started annoying the doctor ( for her benefit) by reiterating that she can't have any, nada, 0 alcohol. Every time, she says the doctor didn't say that, or didn't mean it, one can't hurt, etc. She seems to only hear what she wants to.
I am hoping that she will go back to being her financially prudent self, soon. Her house (where she puts up her parents) was a few days from being forclosed on. I know all this behavior is because of the BP (typical BP behavior, spending money, promiscuos, drinks, etc), but I think the years of putting up with it have just gone one too far.
Now she wants to have a child. There is no reasoning with her about
this. It's to the point now that she is just one big bag of emotion. There is no reason anymore or restraint. She seems to just do what she wants, when she wants, as long as she wants. Don't get me wrong, shes come far (farther than I gave her credit for) in the past two weeks, but there is NO way I am going to have a child with her. I made no secret that I don't and have never wanted to have children. She used to be of the same mindset (I thought). She told me as well, that she knows she could never really take care of a child.
Unfortunately, of all the issues she told the psychiatrist (and his response being "it's the BP"), wanting a child is the only one he said was normal. So now she seems to be latching on to this, even though people other than myself either won't comment or flat out tell her she shouldn't (except for her family, which knows nothing of her illness). She is in no mental or financial condition to have one. But she wants, what she wants.
Things have gotten to the point where she just seems to be doing things to push my buttons and getting (sometimes) a bad overreaction from me.
The "I want a beer" and wanting a baby are real hot button issues with us.
Sigh....
Post Edited (ebonyknight) : 5/10/2011 7:46:16 AM (GMT-6)