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Posted 6/10/2011 9:08 PM (GMT 0)
Help Me....

I have been married for two years.  Ever since our engagement my wife has always gotten mad at me for every little thing.  I feel like I am walking on eggshells.  Any little thing can set her off.  Our fights last for hours and end with her apologizing...but then the next day we start all over and she blows up at me again.

I love her...and as a Christian, I don't believe in divorce...but I can't live like this anymore!!!

I recently told her that something needed to change.  She agreed to see a professional. 

I guess I am just wondering what the odds are of a couple with a bipolar spouse staying together...

Should we "fight" through this...or should we just go our separate ways? (We don't have kids yet, thank God.)

Posted 6/12/2011 12:49 PM (GMT 0)
Hi, Mab,

Obviously, we can't diagnose your wife one way or the other, but it does sound like you've got one mood-swinging situation there. You're right, she does need to see a professional.

I can't tell you what the odds are of your marriage surviving bipolar disorder, but I can tell you that without treatment, the chances are drastically reduced. She will need treatment under a psychiatrist and a therapist, and you will probably need couples therapy as well.

I just want you to know that as miserable as you are, she's probably just as miserable. She's probably in a constant flux of conflicting emotions, she's confused and terrified, not only at what she feels within herself, but by the chaos she is causing around her. If she's driving you crazy, it's because she's feeling crazy. (Not that she is crazy, bipolar disorder is not insanity, it's a mood disorder.)

Perhaps instead of asking if you should go your separate ways, you might consider telling her that you will remain by her side no matter what. As a devout Christian, isn't that the covenant that you made with her and God? I'm not trying to lecture you, but I am a Christian just as you are, and a woman with BP. I know that's what I needed, but never received.

If you wish to talk further, feel free to email me.
Posted 6/14/2011 7:13 AM (GMT 0)
The worst thing a person with bp can hear is that the one she loves is leaving because they can't deal with the emotional roller coaster anymore. We already feel rejected, abandoned and are constantly scared because we don't understand what is happening to us. Lots of therapy and a good regimen of meds and things will become a new normal but it will take a lot of work alot of patience and a lot of love. You will need to seek counseling yourself because it takes a toll on the loved one. I know that it had really damaged my ex and even my two oldest children. The more you learn about her illness and how to manage your pain and emotions through it the better she will be. Good luck to you.
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