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Posted 6/27/2011 9:30 PM (GMT 0)
I have been diagnosed BP since 1995 and have been able to work in my own company (full-time the first 10 years).  Had my twin girls 7 1/2 years ago and started working 3 days a week and then the last 3 years 2 days a week.  I do a lot of my work by computer so I would also do work from home.  I've had times when it got pretty stressful, but I always seemed to pull it together and get things done.  It seemed to work really well, but as the economy has gone down so has the money coming in.  Now this year I suffered a major depression which started in February and now everytime I do get a call or e-mail about business I get SUPER anxious and don't want to deal with it.  I really want to close the business down, but my husband says it is a good write-off even if we are just above break-even.  So what I am asking is twofold.  Can our illness get bad enough over the years (I'm 48) that I can't handle my business now and is there a pill out there that will help me get back to my old self where I'm not worrying about the next customer that calls.  My hubby is also afraid that if I quit I would focus my anxiety on something else.  I see my Pdoc tomorrow so I'll talk to her about it, but am interested to hear from those of us in the trenches.
Posted 6/28/2011 3:57 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Linda,
My advice would be to do pro's and con's on closing the business each day - and add to each day - for a month... not only will you really get to consider really nitty gritty considerations you will be able to monitor OBJECTIVELY your feelings over that time. I am aware that you are on a prolonged downer and that you don't want to make decisions based only because your mood disorder is on the low side atm. However, you do need to factor in whether the business is a contributory factor, how long are you prepared to go on like this, what you would replace the business with for structure in your life and something that gives you a sense of achievement. You are probably best to come up with your own questions and make sure you have them thoroughly answered within yourself before you take any action to fold it. Parenting is hard and we can't chuck that job in. You will still will need to look at the consequences of folding your business really seriously though - and factor in your husband's desires to some degree. Hope this helps.
Posted 6/28/2011 8:56 AM (GMT 0)
tough call. business is not my area of expertise, but i say do what is right for you all. jamie.

ps. let us know ya feedback from your doc. with much healing compassion, jamie
Posted 6/28/2011 2:00 PM (GMT 0)
Sorry you are having a rough time, glad you have a Drs. appt.  At one point in time I thought I was going to have to quit work, I just could not focus.  but as I have been able to manage mood/energy/anxiety issues, I am glad to hav a job each and everyday.  Just a suggestion and please check with your Dr. but I recently added extra Thiamine (B1)  each day and I have noticed a big difference as far as being less irritable and anxious.  I think I was really low in the vitamin because I felt such benefits from it almost immediately.

maybe you want to hold off making decisions about the business until you are feeling better.

Gem

Posted 6/28/2011 5:21 PM (GMT 0)
Very difficult to decide. One thing is for sure, our minds will always find something for worry. If you quit your job you will find another thing to worry. As already suggested you should not make this decision lightly and should treat yourself first. You must visit your doctor and be on therapy if possible to help you with these issues.
Posted 6/29/2011 5:53 AM (GMT 0)
Feel the same way. It gets too much at times. I have decided to trudge on at my job. Sometimes quitting isn 't the answer. There is not an answer until there is. I have to wait. It sucks. Waiting sucks. But it is maturity too...and if I wait it out and keep my head up high...the answer will com. If I am confused....best not to take action.
Posted 7/2/2011 1:29 AM (GMT 0)
Wow, thanks everyone for chiming in. Super busy week so I haven't been able to get back online. You all are right in that I can't make any quick decisions and my Pdoc put me on a new med Tuesday (Lyrica) which is helping with the aniety. I love the idea of writing down the pros and cons LW and am going to do that. I have a good order that won't be fulfilled until October so that does give me some time to think about it. I figure the answer will come to me by then. Gem, I am also going to pick up the B1 this weekend. Would love to see if that would help me too. Thanks again everyone for your thoughts and concern. I am so glad I found this site!
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