hello,
my wife is bipolar and also is an ex addict. she has been clean for four years now which has been amazing. When we dated back in 2008 prior to marriage she had her first biploar episode where she said she needed her space. then i have gone thru 3 or 4 since then through our marriage. everything has been going great up untll about the beginning of july. My wife has had a huge life changing event when her mother whom i love dearly has decided to remarry after being widowed for two year to a man the family is very leery about and with good reason. my wife tells me on july 4th week that she is going to travel about 14 hrs to see her sister so they can discuss further about their mom and to basically bond with her sister. i didn't think anything other than that was the issue then on her way down there i find out that the biggest reason she is going down there is she is unhappy with me and tells me she is not in love with me and is miserable. says she is depressed and unhappy. so while down there she tells me when she gets back we need to read a book her sister recommeded and possibly even see a marriage counselor. also she is low on her bi polar meds and needs to see her doctor also. so i read the book, she has yet to read it. when she got back she said we should try a seperation so she can get her wellbutrin upgraded to 450 mg. we agreed to stipulations of the two week seperation and started it this past sat. i have not contacted her until tonight when she was inquiring about our dogs surgers. now also, we live seperate and have since our marriage becuause we both have houses an hour apart and jobs in those towns and have commuted back and forth the five years. when she was an addict, she constantly talked about moving in together and now clean she doesnt want to when i brought it up this past week she said i dont want to live together. when i said we should she said if i don't give her this two week seperation she wants a divorce. so i gave it to her. we agreed to be faithful, just limited or no contacting until the two weeks is up and she would tell me if she wants to be married or not. she acts mean, hateful and very very cold when we talk. also, she said she doesnt know what is going on and doesnt want to make a decision she may regret until she gets her meds in her for a couple weeks, hence the two week seperation. her lack of compassion is driving me insane especially when i have stood by her thru all of the above like a good husband should. what do i do? am i being foolish to think this will work out? she cannot tell me when or why she started falling out of love. says she loves me but not in love. so here i sit having to wait until sat of next week to here her decision. she also is a control freak and very very selfish. any/all advice will be most welcome. i think she is somewhat manic/depressed but she says she firmly belives her bipolar meds have been great and is banking on the large updosage of wellbutrin will help