Hi Rcampbell,
I'm glad you were able to see your doctor.
Please feel free to check out HealingWell's resources area where you can find very helpful information on different conditions:
www.healingwell.com/pages/The Bipolar Relationship: How to Understand, Help, and Love Your Partner by Jon P. Bloch, PHD, Bernard Golden, PHD and Nancy Rosenfeld is supposed to be a good book as well. It’s supposed to help partner's of Bipolar individual understand their partner better.
I hope you will find some helpful information in the resources area and from the book that can help your husband understand what you are dealing with.
I also hope the meds will work for you and you will feel better.
Take Care
UA