My name is Charles and I am new here. I am thankful I came across this site. A little background history might help. I have been together with my wife for five yrs and married for almost four. My wife was "diagnosed" with depression 2 years ago. She dropped out of school, couldn't hold a job for more than 6 months. At the deepest points I was carrying her from the couch to the bed, showering her, and almost feeding her. This lasted about
3 months. The meds seemed to be working but very slowly and with little affect. The doc just kept upping the dosage. Fast forward to this past Christmas. Things were going well to the point we were thinking about
asking the doc to start weaning her off the meds. We were planningon trying to start a family this Summer. She went to.NYC in Jan. For 3 months for an internship. From her sister I found out she stopped taking her meds shortly after arriving in NYC and was only sleeping about
4 hrs a night. We talked almost every day or skyped. In March she sounded distant when ever we talked. She came back March 25th. The next day she told me she met someone and was in love. She told me she was so horny she couldn't help it and slept around and that afterwards she didn't feel guilty which got to her thinking about
our relationship. She would talk to this guy in front of me. She wants a divorce now and everything is my fault. She says I'm not driven and don't have any goals. I cook, clean, and grocery shop because my wife hasn't been able to since the depression. I go to college, Danish language classes 2x a week and also work. She just to go back to NY for 2 weeks. We have no money since we used a lot of our savings so she could go to NY for her internship. She has been very cold and mean to the point she doesn't care what happens to us or me. She says it's because she is in love she is acting this way. I just think she is very manic right now. She is displaying all the classic symptoms of bipolar. Little sleep, irrational thinking, spontaneous travel or spending sprees, promiscuous behaviour
, lack of guilt, racing thoughts, selfishness, irritability..... She has been like this. for about
2 months.. since coming back 2 weeks ago she has told me she wants a divorce and has already started the process. I'm staying at my sister in law's place. She told me she is keeping everything in the apartment. I should find my own place. I am from the US but have moved to 2 countries to be with her. She is Danish and we live in C
openhagen now. If we get divorced I have to leave the county and quite school. Which she replied "it's not my problem" She is throwing me out like like a piece of trash. No home, no social network. Thank God her family is very supportive because they also think she needs help but are a little reluctant to say she is bipolar. I can understand since she hasn't been diagnosed as one. Is it just me being an bad husband or could she be bipolar and in a bad manic phase. I have been all over researching and calling professionals including our family doc. They all tell me it sounds like something's is wrong. "ya think" they say she needs to see someone right away but they can't do anything until she is thinking about
harming herself. She reuses to see anyone or get back on meds. She says she has never thought clearer and that I am the one with a mental problem. Of course she doesn't want to see anyone. She feels great now and how does one tell someone who is literally happy that something is wrong with them. I just don't want anything to happen to her while I am not there. Sorry about
the novel. Had to vent a bit.
I love my wife and am able to seperate her from this illness if she is bipolar. This is the first time I have ever seen her manic like this but I also know it probably won't be the last. Love is worth fighting for!
How long can an untreated manic phase last?
Maybe I'm just being an a** that can't let go.
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