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Posted 5/6/2006 2:34 PM (GMT 0)
I have been diagnosed with bpfor almost two months and currently on Lithium (1200mg) , Effexor, Ritalin and Klonopin. Anyway here is my problem, I have been married for one year and with my husband for 5yrs. We have always "fought" little stupid fights all the time but lately its getting worse. I have been out of work for about a month and a half trying to have my meds adjusted, therapy etc...and now I feel he treats me like a maid. He has always never really contributed to household duties but since being out of work its gotten alot worse. And another thing now when we have arguments and I either don't like the way he is talking to me or think he is giving attitude-he tells me that he is not and I just think that because I am crazy (those are his exact words). The other night he got really pissed off and called me a c*nt sad and threw a remote at the wall that shattered into a million pieces and told me it was my fault for him throwing it. My therapist thinks that being with him may be holding back my ability to adjust and better myself and I have thought about leaving him but am scared. I would have nothing...hardly any money, no furniture (because he would keep it all) and no real place for kids to go when its my part of the week for custody. So I guess I am just asking anyone out there...what would you do? He refuses to go to any appts with me and I am at my wits end. If someone has any advice that could help I would greatly appreciate it. Thanks and sorry this is so long.

~Trish

Posted 5/6/2006 3:11 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Trish,
I'm so sorry you're going through this. Do you have any family that can help you? Perhaps a relative you can stay with? I know that's hard too. My grown daughter is staying with me and we're driving each other nuts. (We both have preschoolers as well though)
Maybe if you could get away for awhile and diffuse the situation you would be able to find a way to begin rebuilding your relationship. It's so difficult when the relationship is in trouble and there are kids involved. I've been there.
Do what you need to do and know that we're here if you need to talk.
Take Care
Ellie
Posted 5/11/2006 2:36 AM (GMT 0)
Hi mommasox,
I am not married but i have the same problem with my boyfriend. We argue about lil things and when i try to tell him how im feeling he tells me i have issues and am crazy and need to get help. He doesnt understand my bipolar disorder at all and wont go to any of my appointments or read up on what bipolar is. I dont really have any advice becuase i am scared of leaving him too. He is all ive known for 4 years and if i left i would have nothing. i just wanted to relate to you and let you know your not alone.
Posted 5/11/2006 10:36 PM (GMT 0)
HAbbey-

Thank you so much for your reply. Just to know that I am not alone is very reassuring. My husband wont go to my therapy sessions or read up on bipolar either, its getting tough. If you ever need anyone to talk to I can be found on aol at [email protected]

~Trish

Posted 5/11/2006 11:46 PM (GMT 0)
I see you are on Ritalin.I abhore that medication with a passion.Can't the Dr.replce it with a better medication?

Posted 5/12/2006 1:17 AM (GMT 0)

the pdoc just put me on ritalin about two weeks ago and i haven't really made a judgement of the med yet, I don't really have any side effects but I don't feel any different. can i ask why you don't like the med-all the info I can get I would appreciate.Thanks

~trish

Posted 5/12/2006 3:08 AM (GMT 0)
I have seen kids & the elderly on Rialin boucing off the walls while on it.It's supposed to calm but I never saw it do that.I was on it for awhile & I was lucky It didn't do me like that but then the Dr found it's not good for anyone with Alzheimer's so I'm not on it anymore...........
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