sinden,
i have gone on rages before in this forum and it seems that i will go on one again.
doctors work FOR you, they are an emplyee, like a gardener. you, or if you are lucky, your insurance company pay the dr for his expert opinion. drs are NOT gods. they are educated human beings. the only difference between me and my gp is two yrs of school and puting in a residency. period. of course or majors and the subjects that we took were different. i lost my interest pretty quickly when i cut up a fetal pig. and rosie has more education than i have. if she had so chosen, she could easily have been a dr.
i call my drs by their first names at least once. only one dr got upset. he is no longer my dr. of course i'm usually 20 yrs or so older than the dr, too. i almost always call my gp by his first name and my pain management dr by his forst name. i call my therapist by his first name, and my psychiatrist occationally by his first name (i can tell that he is uncomfortable with it but won't say anything to me about it. i'm not out to make anyone uncomfortable, jsut to lay down some ground rules.)
if a dr doesn't listen to you, change drs or give the one you have a tongue lashing about who pays his salary.
drs lost their mystique with me when i was in college. my next door neighbor was a med student. on friday nights we would get pie eyed together. i watched him practicing making suters for hours on end. he was a really nice person anad i miss him. we lost contact after we both graduated. when a dr gets uppidy, i just imagine my old next door neighbor sloppy drunk on a friday night.
i know that i can be a crotchety old man who is overly opinionated. i also have bp and chronic pain (i'm suffering from that right now and hurt like he**). but you have to be your own advocate with the medical community or it will roll you up and compact you. a few yrs ago one of my best friends was dieing of cancer (it happens when you get older). they had him in a room by himself after he came out of icu. my wife and i cam e up to visit him and found him drowning in his own vomit. i got ahold of a nurse immediatly and gave the hospuital administrator a good piecr of my mind. if my wife and i had not been there for my friend, and acted as advocaes for him, he would have died right then and there. he died about 6 mos later.
be strong. be forceful. be aware.
end of rant.
warren