trying,
most people get married to find the things in their partner that are missing in themselves. They are searching for "completeness" because they do not feel complete themselves. I believe that this is the reason for a divorce rate of over 50% in first marriages and 70% in subsequent attempts.
"BUT I LOVE HIM/HER!" As I've asked my granddaughters many times, "Is it love or hormones?" I give my oldest granddaughter credit for trying: she's on her 3rd attempt - and she is just 30 yrs old.
what does this have to do with your situation? i hear you asking. The first question is, "why did you get married in the first place?" The second question is, "what were your expectations from the marriage and from your partner?" Usually, I have found, people get into relationships for all the wrong reasons and with unrealistic expectations. It happened to me 45 yrs ago and it lasted for almost 5 years (because I'm so understanding and patient - and if you believe that I have a bridge I want to sell you 
). It was a DISASTER of species-ending proportions!
if i knew then what i know now, i never would gotten married to this woman or i would have been better able to cope with the situation. But time wounds all heals - or something like that.
The question for you, BP or no BP, is what do you want to do and where do you want to go from here. Most people ask for advice so confirm their own beliefs or prejudices. I would wager that you already know what you want to do.
if it's any consolation, statistically, most marriages end at or before the 1st anniversary. If you make it past the 1st, the next statistical spike is at 5 yrs, then 10 yrs, then 15 yrs, then, strangely, at 25 yrs. after 25 yrs, there is not another spike until (if I remember correctly) 40 yrs. At this latter spike, the kids are all grown and the spouses actually have to be alone together. what a shocker!
I hope that this information is helpful for you, Trying. I am providing tough love and a reality check.
warren