Something like breaking up is hard to do? Stay positive BUT you keep mentioning your children. From my own personal experience, this is where the psychologist and psychiatrist will start. You may hear some disturbing information on this being the worst thing you could possibly do, at least I did. I was told (Even though I desperately wanted my family/marriage to STAY together) it was better to let go in the long run for both parties and especially the children's sake. I pray everything works out for you and your family.