BD

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          I  have been married to my wife for 11 years. I knew that she always had to have some kind of problems,because of her upbringing.

My wife was molested when she was just 4 years old,mentaly and phisicly all tru her teenage years also. I didn't find all of this out untill after we were married oh about a year.I guess it took her that long to feal she could realy trust me. It all started with her being unfaithfull to me for me to really know that she had a big problem witch I know know was the bd. She also has mood disorders,and post tramatic stress syndrome.

She would bold face lie and I would catch her doing it over and over. It took alot for me not to leave her and divorice. If I knew that she was doing it willingly I would have left and saved myself alot of heartace. It took me sticking with it and telling her over and over that she needs to go see a doctor to finally get her started on meds to control her. I didn't really know what I was geting into tho.

I took her to our family doctor to treat her and she was doing go for a while, but man did she take me for a ride when she went down.

She found something out about her dad one day when I was at work and that did it. She calls me out of no where screaming and crying out of control.(And I mean I was scared to death) she told me to get home as soon as I can that she had something awfull to tell me.

I couldn't understand how she could get so upset over some little thing. I come in the door and she has wrote allover her arm's face,and her leg's with a ink pen. I was floored. to come in and see your wife that you love acting like she has lost her mind. the thing of it is she didn't want anybody to know about what she did like she knew it wasn't right in some way,but couldn't understand it at the moment.After we got thru that she has been pretty well mantained for the most part other than her temper. She get's so mad over the littlest thing's,and I mean screaming mad. Sometimes I will just get the truck keys and take a drive to let her calm down, If not It will go on forever.

It wasn't untill a week and two days ago that she lost it again. Her mother had been dealing with cancer for a little more than a year. She passed away a week and two day's ago from brain cancer. I know it's only normal to be very upset and, will take a logn time to get over even for me. I took her to the hospital to she her mother after she had passed and I had to phisicly drag her away from her mothers body. the whole way home she was talking about how she wanted to go with her. That really freaked me out,but we went ahead and went home. She was uncontrolable. There was nothing I could do. I even called my parents to get advice. After about an hr she said I don't know how to do this and that struck a nerve with me so I said what do you mean. She started talking about suicide.

I took her emideatly to the er and they checked her in for a 72 hr. stay to change her meds. I am really glad that I did that because she is a totaly different person more like the one I first married. I do have a question tho how long does it take for her body to get in tune with the new med's?  I just found out a week ago that she is bd and all the others. anyone that has any advice I could use it.

 

Post Edited (hotmail) : 2/9/2009 11:35:25 PM (GMT-7)

Hi hotmail,

Let me echo Rocketman and welcome you to HealingWell and to the forum. I'm sorry to hear you've lost your mother in law and on top of that you've got your wife going through a terrible episode as well. I agree with Rocketman. This will probably not be over when she gets out of the hospital. Most mood stabilizers take at least a month to 6 weeks to build up in the blood stream so you've got a bit of a wait. Just be encouraging and help her to remember to take her drugs. She could use some counseling too, if you can encourage that as well.

I know it's hard to watch someone you love change before your eyes and do scary things. She will be okay as long as she has proper care. Just see that she sees a psychiatrist regularly (once a month or so) and try to get her into therapy. It's hard to be supportive when bipolars are unmedicated and doing irresponsible and hurtful things. But if you want to hang in there, be honest with her and be ready for some hard times. She will stabilize eventually. It probably won't ever be back to "normal" but it will be better.

serafena