Feel like I'm stuck on a sandbar

Well,

Last Thursday night, my wife and stepdaughter arrived in FL, exhausted, hot, and ready to rest.

She called me as planned to tell me they were here, and I had already told them to come to my apartment, and work on going to her Mom's the next day.

I met them in town, they got here, and took great advantage of a hot shower, and sweet tea.

Sleep wasn't too far off, but we managed to talk a bit, before getting that needed sleep.  Friday morning involved getting ready for the day, and going to my Mother in Laws home for again another discussion.  We cleaned up there, unloaded my Wife's truck for the most part.  Which left most living space cluttered until it can be sorted.

They spent the weekend with me, with a lot of discussion about the future.

My Wife accepts that she needs help, I have done my best to assure her that I'm willing to do what it takes.  She will remain at her Mother's for the most part, but able to spend time with me while we work on our relationship.

She does have some physical problems, she injured her hand rather severely in a fall on the street.  She's pretty bruised from that.  She was told by a Dr. that she has the early stages of Glaucoma in one eye, and she is now going to get an appointment with her Psychiatrist and accepts that she needs help.

Last night, she sat on the couch until nearly falling asleep reading my copy of BP Survival Guide.  Even taking notes as she read.  I see that as a positive thing.

She woke before 6AM today, started rattling around in the kitched, and woke me up with Coffee... not to mention her wanting to be close, held, and loved.  We had some additional discussion, she seemed to be experiencing some anxiety, so I did my best to calm her down, and assure her that she is loved.

She felt comfortable I guess, as she dozed off, and is still asleep.  I'm going to let her stay that way until she wakes.  She plans to get medical appointments lined up, along with an appointment for her PDoc.  Again, it's positive.

I'm taking this one day at a time, and am optimistic that her experiences in VA and other things, has been such that she doesn't wish to go that route again.

Keeping the faith.

GT

Hi all,

Yesterday, I took my wife to her PDoc for the first visit since her return.  Initially she went in alone, and then came out so the Dr could explain to me her meds and when to take them.  (she still forgets a lot).

He has placed her on Abilify, and prescribed Klonopin as well, and to continue with the Celexa.  He also prescribed another med for cramps but as PRN.  She will return next monday, to check progress.

We also were referred to a therapist, for both of us, so things are looking forward. 

Since she's been back in FL, her moods are doing well.  There are some minor changes but are smoothed out quickly with me just trying to calm her down, and explain things that are important.

The two BPD survival guide books are here, so she is reading one (making notes and underlining certain things) and her 13 yr old daughter is reading the other.  I have explained to my step-daughter that this is a total family commitment, and that she is needed to be involved, and not become a co-dependant, but another means of helping with her Mom, when she moves from one phase to another, specifically when it comes to shopping.

So I'm looking forward, and taking small steps.  Things are looking up right now, but we're not out of the woods, while the trial and error period of treatment evolves.

Keeping the faith.

PS I'm encouraging my wife to sign on here as well.  I think that she will, and perhaps soon.

GT