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Posted 3/9/2010 11:55 PM (GMT 0)
Hello all! My wife has been diagnosed bipolar in the past. But she has not taken medication for the past 5 or so years. We have been together for 3 and have been married for 2. I know the emotional rollercoaster that people have described all to well now. We have 2 children and it became worse after our second child. She had a child previously to us getting married and I adopted him when we got married. Her ex as a heavy drug user and put them through alot of heartache and pain. But, I just don't know what to do anymore. She says that the medication does nothing for her and doesn't help. She goes from a very loving and caring person to a rude surly version of my wife. There have been a few times when she has talked to me and told me to my face that she doesn't like me. Then 2 hours later tells me that she loves me. I feel as though I am losing my mind and I don't know what to do anymore. I tell myself that she has a problem when she has her moments. But even though I know what the problem is and its the cause of her emotional state, it still hurts to hear that.


Thanks for listening
Ez
Posted 3/10/2010 12:52 AM (GMT 0)
 

  Hello and welcome. Your wife sounds like a lot of people who have a problem, try one solution and than give up. Most of us here have had to try several medications to get results and even more are still adjusting the meds to "fine tune" the results. Unfortunally its quite common for bipolar people to go off the meds. Either they dont work at all (rare) or they just numb us out ot everything and we feel like we are moving thru molassis and have all the emotional range of a houseplant. This is tough because in her mind, she is fine. She can completely justify everything she has done or will do because her brain will help her rationalize the issue so it makes sense to her. Trust me, it does.

   Now the hard part. You cant make a BP get help and start meds. They have to want it and even then its really hard to wait for the drugs to kick in and provide relief of some sort. This is something you can talk to her about but if she is dead set against getting on meds than things wont change and will possibly get worse. We dont get better with age, this becomes harder as we get older.

  

   Wish i could have been more positive but right now you need the truth.

  

  Bill

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