How do people with bi-polar help family members to understand and to better cope with the issue?

Hi everyone, I have a very serious question. How do people with bi-polar help family members to understand and to better cope with the issue? I believe that my marriage is headed for divorce, because my mate does not understand . When I try to talk to him, he makes me feel so insignificant . I resent that he has more of a life than I do. I ask to go do things with him and he is not receptive of the offer, it is like he is ashamed of me. It is scary not to know when the manic moods might hit, how do I let my spouse know that I am beginning an episode to better prepare him. During the episodes, I feel like I do not want the relationship and I say hurtful things to him. He has cheated on me and I do obsess about it. I have obsessive/compulsive behavior as well. How do I change my mindset when I begin to obsess about things. This really has caused a rift in my marriage. Plus we have so physical contact. I feel like if we did have more of a physical relationship, like cuddling, kissing, holding hands. I think it would help. Has any one dealt with these issues. I feel overwhelmed. Please help me!!!

Hi Puppett,

Welcome to HW. I know most of us can relate to what you are going through.

I honestly believe the only way our partners/families can come close to their own understanding (as they cannot possibly understand the way we do) is through EDUCATION of this illness. I believe that comes from doing extensive research and LISTENING to you. Doing these things goes a long way to helping our partners especially understand when an episode is coming on and how to help us cope if they can.

I really hope things improve for you. I think it's so tragic the number of marriages/relationships end due to this illness. Truly tragic. I believe there is a way so it just makes it more sad when it falls apart.

Always, no matter what, take very special care of yourself. And continue to reach out to us. We are here for support.

Hugs,
Mogs