Feeling very depressed***trigger***

I am concerned about how much this has effected you. I hope that you have a therapeutic relationship with a mental health care provider that can help you negotiate this relationship. Obviously your daughter is still in the grief stage of her diagonsis (I feel there is no set staging for grief, because things can take you back there), since she felt the need to blame you for something you have no control over, but please realize that is the hurt part of her striking out. Plus, it is evident that this still hurts you. I am wondering if something fairly tramatic has happened to your daughter recently, for her as an adult to still be living with her parents, whether it was a job loss or health issue does not really matter other then it makes her feel "less than" and in turn that makes you feel "less than."

Given your state and her state... please, please, seek professional help! Do not stop trying find it until you have found some mental health care provider that is a good fit, that can help you deal with this and hopefully help her too.

Thanks everyone. I know I didn't give much information, sorry. Just really in a panic.

My daughter and I have fybromyalgia also. She is unable to work due to depression and fibro. Been out of work a little over a year. She has always manipulted me. Even as a small child. Psych. said that she must had had bipolar as a small child due to her symptoms. I think we both developed it when we were young.

I do need to set boundaries.

We both take medication the way our pdoc perscribed it.

I am just very sensiitive right now. Been in a real bad fibro. flare, have another daughter with special needs I take care of......just overwhelmed.

I have calmed down some. Called my psych. He is calling in something to help me calm down. Just been more than I can handle these last few days.

I feel silly for getting so worked up. Last night I lost control, been a couple of years since I did that.

Another thiing I am dealing with is my father took an overdose a couple of weeks ago. I don't have a close relationship with either parents. My father we very abusive towards me and my mother neglected me emotionally. I am still trying to deal with what my father did. A very big trigger for me.

Thanks again for the advice, it really does help to hear what you had to say.

Things have gotten better. Dr. called in some medication to help me relax. I talked to my sister and she helped me calm down. She also suffers with bipolar and has a son that treats her the same way. My sister and I grew up in an alcoholic and abusive home. We both have difficulty telling someone no. I am just under so much stress. My youngest daughter is very sick too. Just a tough time.

I normally post on the fm/cfs board but thought I would come see how it is here. Everyone has been so nice, thanks.