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Posted 7/12/2011 12:26 AM (GMT 0)
That's it. I am sick and tired to be the one in the family who has suppose to be "normal" and understand everything, the one that can't fight and become crazy. I have been married to a wonderful woman for the past 30 years, she was bipolar and never told me until a couple years ago when the condition became worse a 100%. I am suffering a lot and I need help fast, I want to leave my wife because I can't handle any more her condition, she wants to lived alone from me and her children. I am now on the verge of a nervous breakdown and I want to escape, if I known that she would be like this 30 years ago I would never married her and my life will probably better today although I have two wonderful children that were my most wonderful gift from God. But right know I am thinking very hard to throw all those 30 years on the garbage and start from 0. Like the Carpenters song said "I said goodbye to love"
Posted 7/12/2011 1:03 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Pitirre,

I think you should read my posts. I think you will find a lot of similarities. I haven't been married anywhere near as long, but I married a BP 2 wife.

In short, her BP, alcohol abuse and age are catching up to her. You need to calm down and spend some time with yourself and find yourself. I found that I lost who I was and became my wife's caretaker, ignoring my own needs. I am suffering as well.

I tossed my wife out for the second (and I am now hopeful) last time today. I have learned that I am Co-dependant and that has contributed a lot to both of our problems. I suggest BEFORE to take such a drastic measure, you evaluate yourself and see if you can live with what you are thinking about doing. For me, I am now seeing that it is what I have to do before I self destruct along with her.

Stop, take sometime, calm down and evaluate yourself and find out how you really feel about this. Speak to a therapist. Read the posts around here and see what information you can find and what stories you can relate to. 30 years is a lot of time and should be carefully evaluated before you may do something you regret.

Most important, post! Get out your feelings and frustrations. It is a good place to vent and relate.
Posted 7/13/2011 12:22 AM (GMT 0)
is your wife's alcohol abuse from bp or is it just an excuse?how often does your wife drink and how much,my wife says she uses beer to make her stop hating herself on the inside,she drinks about 3 times a week and usually around 8 beers each occasion when she gets mad or stressed she will drink,i was just wondering if our wives have something in common with bp or are they become dependant on it to cope,hope i have not pryed too much in your life,any feedback would be great....
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