New Member & Co-dependent

I found this site about 3 years ago I remember now. My spouse was off on one of his searches for his "soul-mate" who wanted the "white-picket-fence" life with him but I don't remember why I forgot that I believed he was bi-polar at the time. Except that a lot happened in between that separated us [physically] for two years during which time he got sober and started working a good AA program. But some of the insanity [especially in thought processes and his blaming me for everything wrong in his life] has remained along with his chasing "soul-mates" but he now calls it finding brief happiness...... Oh how foolish I feel-felt when I was venting to someone recently and they asked me if he was bi-polar....? He was diagnosed ten years ago when he first went to substance abuse treatment but we both took it lightly as part of his alcoholism and not really bipolar disorder...... and I should know better--I have an advanced degree in psychology.....Anyway. I am terribly co-dependent myself and I know that. I need to find a way to just be friends and save myself out of this except he is soooo co-dependent on me and keeps pulling me back.......I have been involved with him for 17 years and it has been quite the roller-coaster. I am glad to be back here and looking for answers--if nothing else but to vent a bit....