With my wife, i practice something i call "loving detatchment" Every morning i wake up and love her for the woman i love. But if she gets angry or hurtful. i simply turn it off. It has taken a few years to learn this trick, and it works most the time. She has her problems i have mine. So i choose to love the woman i love, and not pay attention to the hurt that occasionally comes out of her mouth.
Love, its awesome, but it can cut both ways.
Bill