recently diagnosed with bipolar, add, adhd, anxiety

I have recently been diagnosed with bipolar, add, adhd and anxiety and have been placed on Medical Leave from work.  I try so hard to disguise my "disease" as it makes my husband crazy and my husband has informed our 14 year old that mom is not feeling well.  I have been asked by my husband not to fill our son in on what is wrong with mom.  I have placed all credit cards, check books and have added a 2nd signer on all my accounts, so I will not have the power to spend.  I wake up everyday fighting.  I fight the disease, I take my meds, but I do not take time for me.  I get treated by a therapist and a shrink and it helps when I am there, but I come up and my husband makes some remark, what did you do all day.  He leaves things laying around to see if I will pick them up "since I am home all day"  My doc says it is to early to go back to work, becuase I am fighting the symtpoms and not letting the moods come and go, becuase I am afraid of my husband.  I have been job searching and have a few leads, but my doc says to let them go, other things will come along.  But my husband checks up to see if I have gone and is always checking in to see what I am doing.  I have had the suicidle thoughts because of the way he treats me, but I keep thinking of my 14 year old.  I am tired, but I can not rest because the laundry needs to be done, the floors need mopped, the bathroom needs cleaned, dinner needs to be made, no time for me.  I am lost and so confused.  I take interviews, becuase I cannot live with my husband telling me that he will not have a wife sit at home and collect any type of assistance becuase I am more than able to work.  He will not go to therapy with me and complains about the expense of the therapy.  Any advice that any one can give would be a appreciated.

 Smiler,  Thanks for the welcome.  My husband does not want to understand what is going on with me.  He fills that regardless of what is going on, as you know the trials and tribulations of the medications, this has been the worst for me.  The doc has gone out of his way to right down what each medication does and why I am on it.   I take Paxil, Xanax, Seroquel, Lamictal, Ritalin SR and Klonopin.   It has been a rough road and now the doc feels he has gotten the right cocktail going and I am having better days, my husband feels I should be myself again.  I have been diagnosed with manic depression for years and after failed suicide attempts, I have the correct diagnosis and getting the right treatment.  Just becuase I have a few good days and then I have a bad day, my husband makes the remark "you must have forgotten to take your meds or you are just being lazy"  I have spoken with an attorney becuase I would like to go and stay with my parents for a week or two, just so I can rest and he advised against it because he feels that my husband's attorney would claim abandoment.  I have always suffered from more depression that the manic periods and I would say that here lately I would rather not be here on earth to stop the suffering.  I cannot stand the put downs, the comments that my wife stays home all day becuase she is "sick" or while you are home, take care of the laundry, make these phone calls, make sure dinner is ready.  My therapist and dr think this is causing me to regress and I will admit it is, but I am stuck and I have no idea how to get out.  BP bites and I really, really hate it right now.  Thanks

 Feeling very down today.  I am just so tired and my husband just does not seem to understand.  I cannot stand this anymore.  My therapist has me off work for another month and that is just causing my husband crazy.  He is not able to live in the life is accustomed to and he says that it is ruining his image.  I am doing everything that I can on my end.  But I think I would be better with out him.  I don't even like to be around me anymore.  He does not talk to me, he does not even offer support.  I have to go outside my own home to find support.  I am exhauasted all the time, becuase I worry about every step that I take and everything that I do.  I feel like I am in the witness protection program, hiding this and that, putting things in a safe deposit box or letting my parents hold onto things.  I just want to be loved, is that to much to ask.  My doc says that my cycles are getting worse because my  husband offers no support to me what so ever.  If anyone has any advice of what steps I should take, please feel free to respond.  Thanks