Posted 11/13/2007 5:06 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Everyone,
I am reading these posts and I relate so much with scared wife. I have a bipolar husband (treated by MD not psychiatrist, and has been on Lexapro for 16 months.) My husband refuses to get help and I am living in a trapped relationship.
I am a professor and he is a realtor who works from home. Because of his condition, he never leaves the house. He spends all of his time in his office and takes people out occasionally for work. He is possessive with me, checks my calls, email, and never leaves my side when I come home.
11 months ago we separated but stayed living in the house together. We sleep in separate rooms, and our kids think life is supposed to be like this...
Our girls are 7 and 5, and our twin boys are 4 years old. He never thought I would ask for a divorce because of our children (where are you going to go? he would say...who would want someone with four kids? he would ask.) He said he will give me a divorce if he moves into our basement and turns it into an apartment. He says he will my life a living hell if I choose to leave because he will never be away from our kids, even for a few days a week in shared custody....
He has ups and downs. He cries and says his gun is at his mothers for fear he might kill himself...Minutes later he is saying i am vial and he doesn't want the marriage either. He says I am tearing the family apart because I will not forgive him for physically abusing me over a year ago. He is right.
I cannot forgive him. Unfortunately, unlike the other wives, I do not love him and I am ready to move on...
My neighbors fear that I will be in the papers dead tomorrow....and I am starting to get scared now.