I had the Mylegram Monday and it was excruciating! I will never have another. Then I had to go see the Dr. on Thursday. He told me what I already knew, that I had 4 very bad disc. He said if he did the surgery, he would only fix C5/6 and C6/7 which he said was the lower 2. He talked to me a long time about
the risks and told me if I expected to be "perfect" afterward, I would be dissappointed. He said usually after fusing 2 of them , the other 2 bad ones will start giving me trouble. The more ne talked, the more confused I became!. I asked him this, 'If this was your neck, and these were your test results, would you have the surgery?' He said " No I would not." I said, so you would just live on pain meds the rest of your life?" He said "No, I would not take pain meds". I told him the only relief I get was about
45 minutes to an hour 5 times a day and the rest of the time the pain consumes my whole life. I told him that I probably shoul not have it, since he said he would not have it. He said he didn'r know my pain and how bad it is. He said let's go ahead and set up the surgery and you'll have something to look to and think about
and discuss with family and then if you want to change your mind, you can.
My best 2 friends asked me to please NOT have the surgery. They think I will be worse. My 16 yr. old Granddaughter was here cleaning house while I was at the Dr. and when I told her, she said, "Grandma, don't let that Dr. wimp out on you! You need the surgery, so have it." Two of my Church friends told me, it sounds like I need to have it because they know how much pain I am in all the time.
My DH told me it was my decision and he would back me in whatever I decided. Now today, he told me, I don't want you to have it. I am afraid you will be paralized and I don't know what I would do without you.
I am so confused! I know it is my decision and I will make my own decision but
Has anyone ever had this surgery when their Dr. said he would not have it himself?
He said he had done this surgery for 20 years, No one ever died on the table, no one was paralized from the surgery.
He said he was afraid I would not get the relief I hoped for.
Someone please talk to me, please?