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Posted 1/18/2011 2:41 AM (GMT 0)
Before I started having all the pain issues, I was in escrow on an old house that needed work. I closed on the house and I'm not having to get in there and work. I painted one of the rooms today, I've cleaned drywall dust, working my arse off there. I feel bad because my husband has faced the brunt of the work because my health has been so bad. I'm so wishing I hadn't gotten this place now, I wish I had just found a new house that needed no work. The timing is so bad, my failing health and this house. I had to take a vicodin just to keep going, I hate that I can't rely on the physcial strength I've always had, what crappy timing. I couldn't keep asking my husband to go it alone, some family and friends and have helped, but the bulk of the work is on us. I'm feeling fustrated tonight, and resentful, that I got this place and I just have to work on it no matter how I feel. I take it slow but sheesh, everywhere I look there's more to do and I'm so afraid I'm going to make my problems worse. Sucks.
Posted 1/18/2011 9:14 PM (GMT 0)
Hey MC, I can't even imagine trying to take on all that work. I can see how frustrated you feel right now. Just try to remember to take it as easy as possible. Pace yourself so that you don't over do it and pay for it later. Your not on someone elses time clock. Take care and I hope things get easier for you soon.
Posted 1/19/2011 2:59 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks Shannon. I did too much today. I can't help it, my hubby is alone doing the work and he is so darn exhausted, I just had to start to kick it in no matter what. I was struggling today, a lot, and I came home and took a bath and Xanax & Neurotin, took the pain away but I know I'll be hurting tomorrow. I taped the borders and doorways of a 2000 square foot house, put a bedroom set together with him, helped paint in the kitchen. Tomorrow I have to do all the trim work in four rooms with a brush. God I don't know we'll ever get this done with my disabled self working on this. Four months ago I could'a banged this out without another thought, now I push and push. We have to get moved in, we're paying for two homes now and all our work is getting backed up from this darn house. Is it wrong to say I don't like the place already and I'm suffering buyers remorese BIG TIME. :(
Posted 1/19/2011 3:01 AM (GMT 0)
This is house is too big and too old for us. It's a half acre and while I loved the park-like setting, I didn't spend the two second necessary to think..."hey, you need to look after that park-like setting missy." why is hindsight always 20/20 ?
Posted 1/19/2011 9:56 PM (GMT 0)
Mental it sounds like the old saying when it rains it pours and you need a big umbrella. I don't know that perfect timing has ever entered into my life and I am 57 years old, and still waiting on that one to happen, lol. Thats the thing about CP, you can be perfectly fine one day and a totally different person the next day when it hits. Been there and one that, as many other here will agree.

I truly do not know how you are doing the work you are describing and I understand the need to help out to get it finished. But just keep in mind each day that you work like a work horse you are just knocking yourself back many, many steps and it's almost impossible it seems to ever get caught up again. My experience has been the most CPer's are over-achievers anyway and we tend to go after it.

I hope that you can get this project finished soon so that you can take a breather, you need it. Take care.
Posted 1/19/2011 10:46 PM (GMT 0)
Even with a newer home there is always something to do, things fall apart all
the time, maybe get homeowners insurance, or look into it.
At least you know how to fix it up, we need repairs here but my hubby has no fix it experiences,
the wall paper is coming off at the bottom in the bathroom...ect...but they did prep the
wall underneath, no paint on the dry walls, so if we steam the paper off
it could damage the drywall...the best thing I can say is to just do a room at a time...
work from there...and I hope you get a low pain day soon...
Hope your feeling a little better soon.
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healing hugz
Posted 1/20/2011 1:17 AM (GMT 0)
I feel the same way. I live in a hundred-year-old house and there is so much that still needs to be done. When we bought this house ten years ago we knew it needed a lot of work but we thought we would be able to get it all done quickly.
Here it is 10 years later... the house still needs insulation, the washroom floor is soft, all the rooms need painting again, the carpeting needs replacing in two bedrooms, we need to put siding on the outside of the house, we need to put a new Shaker seal under the dining room floor, we need to add another closet in the bedroom, we need to fix the broken window in a closet, we need two new storm windows, and would like to go up into the attic to build two more bedrooms and a bathroom.
Last summer we decided to put new flooring in the living room. It took us nearly 2 months to rip up the old carpeting, put in a new Shaker seal under the floor, lay down another subfloor, and then put the flooring down. By the time we were done I was in so much pain it took me nearly 5 months to feel better and I still have some pain.

Just take it easy. Hugs
Posted 1/27/2011 10:45 PM (GMT 0)
I'm not alone in the "house needs work" department. I keep focusing on all the things that need to be done at a whole but I'm trying to slow down and look at what's needed first. As far as wallpaper, you can steam it off, yes, and it often damages the drywall but fixing the holes that leaves behind is very easy. Take the stuff off, let the wall dry and get joint compound, use the spackling knife to cover the areas, let it dry and sand it so it's smooth, prime and paint. We just did two walls. Come to find out, our entire dining room is wallpaper that was painted over, and our hallway. We didn't notice until we painted and it started curling at the door frames. A friend also told me that we could sand or cut the seams off the wall, use the joint compound to cover it and then paint. He said there was no need to remove the paper, but our isn't coming off. If yours is, you could just water to spray it and slowly take it off with the spackling knife. It's a lot of work and it's hard to do when you're in pain, I know that's much is true. Oh, if you have to cover any large areas and you're sanding, put down paper, shut off the air and put plastic cover on any doors leading out. We spent two weeks cleaning drywall dust over everything in the entire house and we still aren't done. it's awful.
Posted 1/27/2011 10:50 PM (GMT 0)
We didn't know how to fix a thing until recently. Necessity is the mother of all invention. :) My hubby couldn't drill a hole in a paper bag before this house. Now he can work darn near any tool and he's really doing a great job doing thing right. Normally, he'd just duct tape it. LOL. Of course today he was trying to start our friend's pressure washer with the choke on. I smelled gas and had to go out and tell him he had to turn it to run, it won't stay running with the choke on. :)
Posted 1/28/2011 2:40 AM (GMT 0)
I actually feel better working, it's like my body needs the bloodflow. But, I am hurting and I am trying not to go too crazy with the work. I've only been able to do this by taking a half a Vicodin around 11 am, sometimes the second half at 4 pm. I don't even have a script yet for that, I'm 'borrowing" my mothers, she has MS. I'm going to get something from the doctor the week after next, I hope, because our work on that house doesn't end when we move in, it really just begins. I also run a business with my husband and work has been creeping, we're going to be hurting financially very soon unless I pay more attention to that. Don't forget I have a special needs child too. At times, this is so far over my head but I keep going anyway. I sure wish I had her when I was younger, I'm 41 and she's 5, nearlhy 6, and I didn't take into acccount the workload when I waited that long to be a mother. I also didn't take into account that my health wouldn't be what it was when I was 34.
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