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Posted 9/19/2011 4:27 PM (GMT 0)
So, I had a pretty good day on Saturday, was able to take my grandson to the annual pumpkin festival a few towns over, watched him ride rides, play games and eat ice cream, later in the evening my wife and I went to the local performing arts center and watched the Beatles cover band, American English, perform, it was a good day and my pain was well managed. Unfortunately yesterday and today i have been in almost unbearable pain, it almost makes my good day not worth it:( I spent this morning crying the pain was so bad I felt like giving up. I feel like my bad days always out number the good and its never going to be different. I could really use some words of encouragement...
Posted 9/19/2011 5:00 PM (GMT 0)
Hang in there, sometimes all we see are the bad days, as
we are more tuned into the pain, but remember the fun you had with your grandson,
wasn't that ever so enjoyable, did you get pictures, so maybe next time take things
easier. Will a heating pad help? or an ice pack, maybe try an topical cream or
ask your doctor about a topical cream. Do you use a portable tens unit? ask
your doctor about that. Kids don't need a day
out when your feeling bad, sometimes the best things they remember are you reading to them,
I remember my grandmothers porch swing more than anything...
I sure hope your feeling better soon, if not then maybe a trip to see your doctor.
Many well wishes for a low pain day soon and do keep us posted on how your doing, we do care...
Posted 9/19/2011 6:06 PM (GMT 0)
I learned the hard way,when you have a good pain day,you have to make sure you don't over do it! I realize this is hard to do ,several times it happened to me! I'm sorry to hear your in so much pain ,and it great you had such agood day with the grandson.I think you need to talk with the dr about better pain controll ,giving up is not an option,as the right pain meds can make it so you have many more good days and time you can spend with the grandson,please take care ,from michele
Posted 9/20/2011 8:10 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Badheartdude...I'm so sorry for your increased pain. The posts above me gave you some good advice. That's right, giving up is NEVER an option. Your day with your grandson sounds amazing. Hold on to the memories of those days...it's QUALITY that counts. Not QUANTITY. I know we all have those bad days and I know what you mean that it seems the bad days outnumber the good days. It seems like I always have to pay for it when I have a good day or a good time doing something...I always know the pain will follow. But I do think that DISTRACTION is a good pain management tool. Like you said, you managed your pain that day...I think because you were so distracted with having a great time. Just continue to do more of things you enjoy. Maybe find some new hobbies to get your focus off your pain. I know that sounds like it won't work, but truly, I kind of think it does.

I'm glad you are here. Keep coming back and posting all you need to. There are plenty of us that share your frustrations and we all need a shoulder to lean on. I hope you can get to the dr and work this out...maybe find the right meds for you or something that will help. Just curious...are you on any kind of anti-depressant? If not, you might want to talk to your doc about getting you on one. I think most chronic pain patients are on anti-depressants and get some help with them. Take care of yourself...
Posted 9/20/2011 9:58 PM (GMT 0)
I'm sorry you are in so much pain. But your good day was worth it. You got to do so many things. Would you have been able to do that if you were in pain? And whatever you do do not give up, promise us. What would your grandkids think? What would your wife think? What would your kids think? That you don't love them enough? You know I've been in so much pain that I'm only if lucky sleeping an hour at a time. What I did is I called my doctor and got in on an emergency appointment for Thursday. Trust me, you are not alone. We are all in pain that seems unbearable. But do you know the best thing about pain? It lets you know you are alive.
Posted 9/21/2011 1:22 AM (GMT 0)
Sorry to hear about the bad pain recently, hopefully you'll be feeling less awful--if not 'good'. :)

It definitely isn't weird to feel the way you're feeling, mentally, I am sure lots of us have felt like that. But there is a purpose, I think, to everything--and our lives mean something even when we feel like--or wish!--they didn't. You're not alone in this--sorry for feeling crappy though!
Posted 9/21/2011 1:51 AM (GMT 0)
Hi, I am so sorry you arent feeling well, it is difficult, but I do agree with sore42long, its best not to overdue, even though its hard cause you feel good, but 4 days of bad arent worth 1 very long day of good.  It took me a long time also to realize this, but its just better that way.  It gives you many more days of feeling either good or at least not real bad.

Slow down, nothings going anywhere, it will be there another time, I promise.

Take care

Kathy/nini

Posted 9/21/2011 3:44 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you all for your kind words, I was really at the end of my rope the other day, but as they say " this too shall pass" I was able to get out last night and go to a Steve Earl concert, it was a good time even though i had to walk up what seemed like a thousand stairs:) I am once again paying for it today but I am using some distraction techniques my pain therapist has taught me and they do help. Hope everyone has a pain free day!
Posted 9/21/2011 6:46 PM (GMT 0)
Glad to hear that you were able to get out. Learning to pace ones self is one of the hardest things to do. We tend to overdo on our good days and then kick our self on our bad days. It is not worth letting it get you down real bad, just hang onto the fact you are still able to enjoy some things, so relish those memories on the days you are not doing so good.

Hang in there and as you say, this too will pass. Take care.
Posted 9/23/2011 12:24 PM (GMT 0)
I understand and have been going through the same thing lately. I just had a major surgery to help with pain but had a total emotional plunge...for me at least what keeps me going is my son. I wonder what I would do if I didn't have him but I do and so even when I cry for hours (which I did last week for days) I kust keep telling myself that I don't have a choice but to live my life as best as I can, if not always for me, for him - your good days are filling your life and your grandchild with beautiful memories.

I can relate as well to having a good day and thinking all is well and then suddenly having a huge flare...that can make one forget that good day. Maybe you could write down the good memories, it doesn't have to be journalling,  even just words from the great day you had and keep it in a journal and then on a  bad day you could look at it...I just came up with the idea now so I guess I should try it too...lol...wishing you a wonderful day and weekend.

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