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Posted 10/20/2011 9:12 PM (GMT 0)

I've lived with chronic pain sense 96

 I tried working for 5 yrs it was awful I had to go back to physical therapy!

 Simple things like trying to clean my house is painfull.

   My husband dosen't care that I hurt he dose nothing but complain about what food we have or that he dosen't have money to run with his friends.

  He dosen't care if I fall or about to! He pretends he dosen't hear or know that I need help!

 He dosen't want to pay bills so now they are garnishing his wages! I've had to fight to keep the house! People are like move. I'm thinking how bad i'll hurt and the emotional damage of losing my home. I got that fixed thank god but he won't help with the power ect almost got that shut off. I'm depressed on top of my pain. I can't go to work I need more money and I wish I could get him out of my life. My whole life all I ever wanted was to find someone to love and be loved and then I get hurt and have to deal with being emotional abused as well.

  On top of that he hangs around trash and he started looking like trash to.

He dresses like a bumb and wears his hair kind of like a mop and died it blond. I said it looks awful and his comeback was his friends like it. These are people who don't have a disablity but milk the system so they don't have to work. Look like they came off the streets to. So I say really well concider the the scorce like they Have a clue. I'm imbarrassed to be seen with him! he's a social path he acts all charming in public but is a monster in private. He'd never hit me a my dad would kill him he'd lose his job and I'd call the police and fill charges.

 most days I just don't even want to get out of bed!

It was very bad when I got hurt but he's ruined my life! I have dogs and because of him and the fighting they started to self abuse chewing on them selfs! I don't know how much more I can take!

Posted 10/20/2011 9:24 PM (GMT 0)
If there are no children involved, GET OUT and GET OUT NOW!!! See id friends can watch dogs, find a sofa somewhere and get your act together. This man will do nothing but drag you down. he is a bum and always will be . Run for y

Maggieour life
Posted 10/20/2011 9:44 PM (GMT 0)
No kids but I got no-where to go Stuck in Hell I tried a lawyer and they won't help either!
Posted 10/20/2011 11:39 PM (GMT 0)
Dear Forgotten

How far are you from a large town?  Do you have a car of your own?  The large town should have a womens shelter. 

Is there a crisis center that you could call?  They have a number of resourses that may help you.

I will pray for you  that you have the strenght and guts to leave him.  Stuff enough clothes in a 32 gallon trash bag and bring your meds with you.  Go to the bank and empty out your checking and savings accounts.  Do you have any relatives that are out of state?  Go to them.

Please post often and let us know what is happening with you.  When you leave you can go to a library to use a computer or coffee houses.

I am very concerned about your safety.  Make the break and dont look back or regret that you left.  You can do it girl!

Soft hugs

Betsey

Posted 10/21/2011 12:21 AM (GMT 0)
Find a churchor charity, ther are kind people all over. We lost everything in Katrina and I was so terrified and people were so kind, they want to help. Women;s shelters can help with work, apt deposits, cars, the whole shebsang.....you have the chance to make a GOOD life for yourself. Just close your eyes and jump in
Magguie
Posted 10/21/2011 1:11 AM (GMT 0)
Hi forgotten,Iam so glad your brave and honest enough to reach out.I was in a situation worse then yours and was too scared to do anything about it,for years !I finally got out,and this was before I had CP,Ialso know when your sore its hard to look after yourself.All I can say is make aplan and get out asap!It will only get worse!Material items like your house ,you can always get again ,in time.As for you poor dog ,if it can't take the stress ,you can't either!You would be far far better off ,not letting him suck you and doggie down the tubes!You have a far better chance of recovery without stress(HIM)I know it is scarey but in time you'll be happy you made the break.Can you stay with relatives or friends?I know abused women houses are available ,some may not be 100%comfortable but its safe and temporary,till you find a apt or roommate.I wish Icould help more but I live in canada. please keep in touch ,take care Michele
Posted 10/21/2011 1:53 AM (GMT 0)
I was going to email some abused women stuff but you didn't put down your email.I hope you take the advice from people here cause we are a very caring bunch ,if not keep posting ,after all its your life and people here will still support you !I think as time goes on and you keep posting you will find HW has some incredable good people here ,take care good luck!
Posted 10/21/2011 2:22 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Forgotten, Please know this you are not forgotten, you have people here who would and will do what we can to help, since I dont know where you live, for now all we can do is give you support and the first business is to get the hell out.  Please find the strenght to find a shelter, church, domestic violence shelter, get in your phone book under county or state organizations, there will be someone, somewhere, somehow that you can get help.

The longer you stay the sicker you are going to get.  This person (he is not a man) is a narcisstic, sociopath, its only a matter of time before he puts his hands on you.  He can only feel good when he is putting you down.  This person is very sick, please get the hell out, there is nothing there for you to stay.  What good is a house, its not a home, a home is where you live and feel safe from the outside world.  The outside world is in that house.  As for your dogs, they also can be left in shelters until you can find a home for them.  Even if you cant take them, no shelters just give dogs to anyone, they are kept healthy and happy until they can be adopted by a loving family.

Thank the powers that be you have no children with this thing.  It is not going to be easy, but you have to get up and get out, I can pretty much quarentee you will feel better physically once you leave this thing.  No one, and I mean NO ONE deserves to be treated like that.  You have to know you can be happy, with or without a person in your life, but you must work on yourself first, make sure you never allow something like that thing into your life ever again.  I promise you, you will feel better with every step you take getting away from this thing.  Let them be someone elses problem, not yours, you deserve so much better, only you can make that happen.

Look on the internet for support groups for women who are going thru similar things, they are out there, they will help you, Please dont let this be your life, it does not have to be.

By the way, I am Kathy, once again please leave asap.  There is nothing to stay for.

Good luck to you, get some help, and get out!!

Take care,

Kat

Posted 10/22/2011 4:32 AM (GMT 0)
I'm so happy kathy and everyone else here are saying the same thing!I'm only hoping you will post soon and tell us your okay!take care from michele
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