Bad back

Ive never really been a forum person but since my dramas, my Internet use has exploded to the point that I don't remember where I've become a forum member looking for answers.

Ive come to realise that their is no miracle cure for me and that life I knew is gone, to the point where i wonder what's the point in going on, but that's another thing. If it wasn't for my dog and cats, I wouldn't be here. I just hate life and can't get better as much as I try.

Do any of you guys ever get any relief to the point of nil pain or am I just chasing a dream? I've been to pain management places, done the rehab program's etc, but it's only getting smashed that makes me more more mobile and able to mop a floor. I can't venture outside and participate in life. Drinking booze, popping pills like lollies, getting stoned helps my pain, but not social skills.

Am I just chasing a dream about getting my old life back? I live on painkillers (100mg x 2 of ms-contin per day, 15mg endone 2 x per day, 2 x Lyrica 150mg per day, durogesic 100mg sticky patch, 250mg Effexor per day).

I am a single guy that once had a great life, but these days, I couldn't be bothered going out (being an over weight cripple isn't appealing to women), and generally stay home getting trashed (my pain prevents me from heading out as much as I used to), getting fat because doing any form of exercise is murder, I have to take my dog to "Doggy Day Care" every 2 days, so he doesn't turn vicious as I can't walk him.

Ive come to realise that there is no miracle cure for me and that life I knew is gone, to the point where i wonder what's the point in going on, but that's another thing.

Do most of you guys ever get any relief to the point of nil pain or am I just chasing a dream?

Ive been to pain management places, done the rehab program's, seen the psycho people etc, but it's only getting smashed that makes me more more mobile and able to mop a floor. I don't like getting help from others and do what i have to. I am 2 years post op on spinal fusion that went wrong which is subject now to a medical malpractice law suit.

My last surgeon said to me "mate, you are stuffed and you just have to learn to live with it." I appreciated his honesty, but as I ask, is painfree just a dream?Matter of factor speaking, life isn't really worth living anymore. I'm not looking for pity or help, just stating a fact.

I'm with Amy. We women do care about men even if they are disabled. All we ask is that you care about yourself. We do come here to whine, but we don't get to at home. Stuff the doc. Forget pain-free. Just look to be able to walk around the house. When narcotics stop working we have to find something different, and there are options!

You can impress that you care about yourself to us women by getting rid of the booze and losing a little weight. I lost 50 lbs over 5 years by cutting my diet - mainly carbs and fast foods. Is there a possibility of getting a companion-type to come in and just sit or maybe make one nutritious meal, maybe walk the dog once a day, mop the floor for you - that's hard work on your back! An hour of a teenager or senior's time can be a blessing.

I've had only injections in my back so far, got a new completely collapsed disc now, did something bad and need a back brace. Had nose surgery, 2 belly ops, shoulder this year; last year it was stomach, cancer, hand, knee, broken ribs. Lost track. Narcotics don't do anything anymore, so I'm not using them. Allergic to sulfites in wine and beer. Temazepam for sleep stops the muscle spasms until noon, at least it did for 3 days. Diazepam can help with that too. Maybe ask your pain doc about muscle relaxants and stopping opioids.

I like to swim too, but ask the back doc if that's OK. It involves some twisting.

Best wishes, welcome to our family.

I really appreciate the fact that you guys have taken the time to read my post and also to offer some suggestions, your own experiences and kind words. Many thanks!!!

Welcome to the forum Robbie. I'm sorry you have so much pain, but I'm glad you joined us. You can come here and cry, vent or whatever and you're not judged and we truly do care because we know what chronic pain is all about. Take care. I hope you can get a low pain day very soon

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Loretta