Missing members ?

We certainly have a few folks out and as we know Tina has the flu so healing thoughts your way Tina!

SB, whose Mom has had eye surgery twice in a month or so the last being last week. Prayers to her Mom and strength for her caring for her.

WB, battling a move between states, new Drs, and unpacking! May you get settled and back with us soon.

Barbara Lee, whom I believe they said was having a rough week.

LexiRae, healing thoughts to you as I've noticed and missed your presence.

Prayers Susie that your meds work fast and you feel better soon.

Linds, hope schools not putting too much of a strain on your health and hoping your missing humor means your studying!! Lol

Merrida, haven't seen you this week either? Hope your well and let us know how things are going with PT and your SSD.

I'm sure there's more and please feel free to add anyone you think of.

Many prayers and thoughts to you all.

Hi guys!

I have been very knocked out with this flu thing. Dang-nabbit, this sucker is hard to kick. With all the coughing, nose-blowing and general icky-feeling,...I've been down for the count.

I've had it for a few weeks,...getting better to be sure, but wow, I never thought it would last this long.

I've missed HW!

It's so nice to know we're thought of. Thank you guys!



Merrida

Prayers for for all these folks..
(Did not know the flu had started already)

getting sick(er) on top of having CP hits so much harder..

hope you feel better soon!

I didn't even know there was a flu going around.  Hubby got it, or some version of it, a few weeks back and kicked it in a few days. 

It obviously felt the need to linger in our household and hijacked a ride into my body, and decided to linger around for a bit.  I don't think I've had a flu that lasted a few weeks before.

I've chalked it up to (all happening at the same time):  "The Move" into our new house in a new state, Husband's cold, a reaction to a statin being introduced to my med list (didn't connect the dots to the muscle aches and weakness) which has been d/c for a week now and I'm feeling better (thankyouverymuch), and temporarily reducing my BT meds to get a new baseline, sans statin....

And you know, just general stress that goes along with all these things occurring at or around the same time.  I wake up every 2-3 hours coughing, so not so great on the sleep front either.  Keeps me exhausted.

It feels like that visitor who stops by un-announced and doesn't know when to leave.

True, Vickie,....the mere thought of a cyber germ!  Gives a whole new view of the word "virus" now, doesn't it?

:)

Merrida

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Aww thanks. The BF got a job that's sent him out of town a lot so it's just me at home holding down the fort. I've had to adjust to taking care of everything and it's really tired me out. Physically and mentally. I didn't realize how much *support* I felt just from his mere presence...and now that it's lacking more frequently...well...

Even the day to day decisions and events feel more I dunno...heavy...without my partner to share them with and bounce them off of.

And then when he DOES get home for his few days off...well...ahem. We make up for lost time. But I've sorely missed everyone here and I think it will help to come be among friends so I'll make this tired brain read and post more often starting next week.

Thanks so much for thinking of me, makes me feel good to know someone would notice if I fell off the face of the earth! :p

Great to see everyone! Susie's having internet problems too so she couldn't get on or she gets on and it kicks her out!

She said she heard from SB and her Moms had a bit of problems post-op the eye surgery, gotta take care of Mom though!

Barbara your welcome and sorry your struggling lately. They said Jake's off the vent but still has an open teach. He's therefore not talking but responding appropriately by nodding and can point to pictures that OT uses when he wants something. So he's recovering slowly no one yet knows how far he will have to come. There's a Spinal cord/Head Injury rehab in the town next to where they live and the hospitals trying to get him in there!

WB, yard sales are big things there and actually highway 27 is on the big highway yard sale every year that runs all the way across KY. It's something to see! I love finding treasures I've forgotten, it is like walking memory lane.

Lexie sorry your having a hard time adjusting. We get used to letting others handle the details while we battle the monster and it takes some getting use to going back to doing both.

I remember many of you in my daily prayers. I see from the list I will have to add a few more!

As for the Highway 27 yard sales - my sister, mother and I did that back in 2011 and it was a load of fun! Found a bunch of treasures.

We are now estranged due to them accusing me of things they don't understand during our Christmas in 2011. I refuse to speak to my sister and brother now unless I get an apology.

I do still call my mom and talk to her, although during 2011 she said some very hurtful things to me also. It all stemmed from me temporarily putting my husband into a mental hospital for deep depression. He only ended up being there for 3 days, but the night that I entered him there, my mother told me on the phone that my health would never get better until I divorced him. Before that she also told me that I OWED my life to my sister since she donated the cells for my bone marrow transplant in 2004. I don't agree with this because I feel that if I did not accept her cells someone else would have stepped forward to save my life. I do not feel that anyone else show OWE their life to another. It is very hard for me to talk to my mother these days and most conversations end up in arguments because she just doesn't seem to know how to talk to other people. She always speaks before thinking things through and then gives an offhand apology afterward. It is like she doesn't really mean it and is just saying it to keep the peace.

I guess I could use your prayers also about my family situation. My husband has no get up and go to go out and get a job and my entire extended family resents him for it. That is part of their problem. My husband and I have been married for 21 years and I have had many health problems during that time, he has always stood by me and helped me through them, it is now my turn to stand by him and help him through his depression, I just don't get why they cannot understand this?? Any ideas on getting them to understand?

As far as my extended family goes - there is much more to the story, but it is difficult to post personal things on here. My brother and sister have made absolutely no attempt to contact me since Christmas of 2011. I feel as if they have just cut me out of their lives. It does really hurt.

Enough for now as I sit here in tears.
Trudy

Trudy,

I'm so sorry for everything you're going through. We can't choose the family we're born into...and sometimes that's a curse rather than a blessing.

I know it's easier said...but if your family can't see where you're coming from...and they won't put aside differences to be supportive of YOU even if they don't support your choices...then it's really their loss rather than yours.

I've had to make some really tough choices and distance myself from some of my family because the toxic nature of those relationships was killing me. I was so stressed, so upset...that it was affecting my health and every other aspect of my life. I realized I couldnt change them or make them accept me...all I could control was how much of my life I was willing to forfeit to them. And that I shouldnt give so much to people who cared so little.

We're here for you no matter what. If you want to share, we'll listen...well...read...lol. If you don't, then that's okay too!

Susie-Straydog,

I had sinus infections for years. I went round and round with antibiotics, only to have a return of the infection again six weeks later. I finally went to an infection control specialist and he put me on Cipro for three months and that finally knocked it out of me. I rarely get a sinus infection now, knock on wood. I hope yours gets better soon. It is an awful feeling to have that. I get symptoms right down to my legs hurting more. I will pray for you.

Trudy2,

I really feel for the position you are in. Like someone said, you can't change your family or make them do what you want, you can only change yourself and the way you react to other people.

For me, I found Co-Dependents Anonymous. Bet you didn't know about them, did you? Well the program helped me save my life. My relationships with my husband, my daughters and with everyone was spiraling out of hand and I got control of my emotions that were mostly reactions to everyone else. I learned to forgive others and let them just be who they were. That doesn't mean I had to let other people do what they wanted to me, the program just helped me through the twelve steps to gain control over my life and how other people affect me.

Just thought I'd share. You sound like you are in a great deal of pain. I will certainly pray for you as well.

God's blessings over everyone. Have a great day.

Lindaloo

This "flu thing" is pretty nasty.  I don't know if there are several different strains going around or what.  My Husband kicked his in a few days, where-as for me, I've had this for the past few weeks.

It's getting better, but dang-nabbit, it sure knocked the wind out of my sails.  I'm still waking up at night with coughing fits.  I'm still blowing my nose all day.

But the lethargy, shortness of breath, exhaustion, achy malaise and fever have subsided. 

Whatever I picked up, it's kicking my butt sideways.  I haven't been on the forum nearly as much as usual.  I'm too pooped to type!