What makes you so sure that we haven't been where your at? Do you think that everyone here is on a boatload of narcs and nothing else?? Is it reasonable to assume that many of the ppl here spent years and years with no pain management before they relentlessly found some one to help them? I can assure you that I have seen more Doctors that didn't write then did!! I can also assure you that I have spent countless hours in PT that did absolutely nothing for my pain or at times even made it worse!! I have had more injections then my teen has in years of living,some that worked sometimes,some that worked not at all,and some that worked a little more then the others and all by a vast majority of Doctors I wouldn't have trusted with my cat!!
We have folks here that have holes the size of Texas in their stomachs from having spent far too many years on anitinflammatory meds that Doctors prescribed before they would prescribe anything that really worked and regardless of what they knew was happening from those meds it was pain relief at its best for them at that time.
We don't sit around here all day high on a ship of narcotics and try to tell others what pains like,we know what its like and no matter how much or how little meds we each take we will never be pain free!! That is the reason its Chronic pain not acute. As a CPer your not likely to ever be pain free or even close,finding a place in comfort you can live with is where the search ends.
It will be a lifetime of doing whatever,whenever,you can to keep that quality of life when you do find it.There are not very many CPers who ever find a surgical procedure that gets them out of pain or a single therapy or med and this is what we are saying to you. There is no cut and dried answers,there is no magic,no one thing that is going to give you all that you seek and not anytime quickly either.
Its a long and tiring trial and error thing and it may take years and years to get anything remotely like a functional quality of life. Its taken me 12 years and Im one of the lucky ones in that I have managed to find good Doctors in the midst of horrid ones and I lived in two of the very worst states for pain management there is,KY and FL.
I have to sign away my first born just to be able to fill a narcotic in this grand state of FL where the addicts have virtually destroyed medical care as we know it. I have to allow pharmacys personal health information that is really none of their business, My Doctor has to use time filling out paperwork so I might be able to get my meds so the DEA and FDA are happy and allow me to fill here. Otherwise I have only pieces of paper and no meds. I take random urine tests, I answer the phone for pill counts at random and pray I never miss that call, I do whatever they tell me to do whether I think it helps or not and do it with a smile or I get nothing because the governing agency not the DR says I have to.
They say I have to have taken those meds that caused this stomach bleed for so long and give it a fair chance at working for my pain,they say I have to have this scan or that scan regardless of whether my insurance pays for it or I have to sell my car to pay for it. They don't care they don't discriminate unless your a CPer. I drag my rear to the hydropool 4 times a week no matter how sick I feel from the pain out of fear that one of those governing agencys will view my refusal as not cooperating with my health plan set forth by my Drs.
Am I at a place where I can get up and go to the store? Some days. Do I take care of the house and my daughter? Yea if I do nothing else!! Do I not pay for that in the end? I do!! Do I have any choices? NO!!! Not unless I want to go back to the days when finding my answer to my pain was seeking Doctors like Kevorkian!!
This is the exact reason that the first Dr we try to get is a psych dr experienced in pain management!! To teach us how to keep getting up when just giving up is so so much easier some days.
You think we don't get it? Really?
No Doctor owes you pain relief in the form of anything. The hardest part of my journey was learning I had no right to expect anything and didn't and if I got help then it was a blessing and when I didn't well I wasn't disappointed. I learned to help myself in more ways then imagineable.
Im actually on less meds now then I have ever been on in my 57 years of life and 14 in CP. I had 3 kids natural with not so much as an aspirin and 2 emergency C-sections, I had 4 kidney stones during one of those pregnancys and meningitis so I was no stranger to pain when this started but it soon became my constant companion after my accident and that is a entirely different game.
Its not the Doctors,its not the clinics,its not even medicaids fault we don't get treatment. You want to blame then place it where it belongs. The politicians and this war on drugs, the addicts and dealers who don't care about anything but their own needs and the reaction of those regulating agencies to this epidemic of drug abuse. Search this forum,read all the links we have here,the threads about this war and the changes that have been brought to our door, the legitimate pain folks. We have had to change the way we seek help,the way we keep that help,and the very attitude of our expectations of our health care team.
Gone are the days the Dr just whips out his pad and writes you something to stop your pain,the laws say he cant!!! He must first do this and that and he must try all of these things first and then and only then after all the criteria has been met he can offer you certain things,never can he just give you what he once would have. If he does he joins the ranks of overprescribing,gets sanctioned by the license board,could go to jail and lose everything he has spent years building,the essence of his survival.
Overdramatic? Not,this is where pain management is today and nothing we say or do can change that.
If I had easy answers for you? I would give them to you and the original poster but unfortunately all I can give you is the quickest route to get the relief you need and that's not going to be quick enough nor painless by any means.