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Posted 7/22/2014 8:34 PM (GMT 0)
Hi , I have just joined today.Not ready to do a full post yet but just wanted to say hello to everyone and look foreward to sharing advice, tips, experiences, help and support to and from others who understand the difficulties of chronic pain.I am 57 years old , female and from the UK.I am considered a bit of an oddity by my fit , strong and distgustingly healthy family and feel that I have to keep my pain to myself. Here I hope to be able to share in a safe place and not be considered a hypochondriac! Take care .

I have added a heading to your posr so more people will see it.

Post Edited By Moderator (straydog) : 7/22/2014 8:34:33 PM (GMT-6)

Posted 7/23/2014 12:41 AM (GMT 0)
Welcome

This is a wonderful Forum. Most non co people including family do not understand. You are in the right place

Lumiere

14 years cp issues due to aging spine
Posted 7/23/2014 2:33 AM (GMT 0)
Hello & welcome to the chronic pain forum. Sorry that you need us but we are so glad that you found us. It is a rarity for anyone to understand chronic pain unless they have it. We can try to explain or let even family members go with us to the dr but they as a rule just do not get it. Sometimes I don't understand it, so I wonder how I can expect someone else to.

We look forward to your intro thread & hang in there. One thing we understand here is pain, everyone of us are dealing with it. Take care...
Posted 7/23/2014 3:08 PM (GMT 0)
Welcome! This is a good forum. Many face the same family problems you do, no support from them. If chronic pain could be seen, like you can see a casts when someone breaks their arm, so therefore you'd say: "so very sorry" and feel for them, but a bad back disc and no sympathy or understand, which kinda goes hand in hand with our family members. If you told anyone you had RA they'd all be: "oh, my so very sorry". Yet if you tell them you hurt or have fibro or chronic pain then they turn away. Many of us on here have faced that, so we do know and we do get it, you will get support and understanding on here. If chronic pain could be seen or sensed by our family members even for just one day, then maybe they'd get it and understand.
So, very sorry your having to go through all this with your family, as that can make things worse. I, too have gone through this with my family and continue going thru it as it is a struggle trying to get them to understand, so I do not have much contact with them anymore. Choose good friends as well, so that you can have someone to talk to and maybe seek out counseling help so you can learn how to tell your family members, counseling help can give you ideas on how to talk to your family, it's worth looking into, plus you can learn coping techniques.
This is a very good forum for support...
Many well wishes to you and I hope you'll introduce yourself more as you get used to us ...
Posted 7/23/2014 4:46 PM (GMT 0)
Thankyou all for your replies and welcome.Still finding my way around site am a complete technophobe!
Posted 7/24/2014 5:38 PM (GMT 0)
Welcome to the forum. Pity of course you have to be here, but as things are, these guys and gals are the best. If you need advice, want to talk, are just vent ... we're here for you.

Take care.
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