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Posted 5/27/2009 6:59 PM (GMT 0)
My son and I was watching the news on T.V. and there was a report on a girl who had overdosed on meds she had taken at a Skittles party and it turns out to be the girl who talked my son into stealing my pills for sexual favors for a skittles party. My son is very upset now and we are trying our best to help him cope with this tragedy. I am sorry that he is learning a life lesson this way. I am confused on how I should Handel this I have called the consular we have seen but she has yet to get back in touch with us, as soon as I know more I will post it. Sad day very sad day.

                                                                                Sam 

Posted 5/27/2009 7:02 PM (GMT 0)
to clear up a question no it was not for that party she attended that night his episode was two months ago
Posted 5/27/2009 7:25 PM (GMT 0)
Sam, I am so very sorry this tragedy happened.It is indeed a very sad day for your son,and for you. It is horrible that drugs have become so important to young people that they become addicted in such a way that they would and do trade certain favors for them. I do remember your post when your son did take the meds from you for a party. And I remember that he was sorry for what he had done. And that you were trying to work to rebuild trust for him because of that. I am however thankful that your son was not involved in this incident, as I am sure you are,as well. It has been a painful realization and learning experience for him. I am glad that he does have you to support him through this. I know he is having a hard time with it. I hope the counselor returns the call in a timely manner. If not, you may need to call back. There may be an emergency number or someone else who is on call,depending on how badly this is effecting him. I do wish you well and hope everything works out. It indeed is a tragic situation.
Anice
Posted 5/27/2009 8:34 PM (GMT 0)
Sam. Did this girl die? I hate to say this but maybe this will be the "Kick in the ass" that your son needs to make sure he never does anything like this again. To see how easy it is to overdose on pills may be the only thing that will get through to your son...and other kids. If she died I am sorry....but if she survived I hope she learns a lesson.

Me.
Posted 5/27/2009 9:12 PM (GMT 0)
Yes she has passed away, my son is so very upset and has locked himself away in his room because he does not want anyone of us to see him cry, I have told him that it is OK to cry but he feels that it is a weakness when it is not. Our consular has gotten back in touch with me and as soon as my son comes around and wants to we will go and see her, she has made arrangements to see the both of us or the whole family when he is ready. this has been devastating to him and I know he will come around but for right now he needs time. I will keep everyone up to date on our progress but for now we can only wait and mourn her passing. this is a sad day but if my posting can help someone Else's child in danger with overdosing and the pain it causes everyone who loves them then it will have been positive. I'm sorry but I can't think right now and I have to go. Thank you.

                                                                                             Sam 

Posted 5/27/2009 9:59 PM (GMT 0)
Sam,
I am truly sorry this had to happen. The tragedy is it's happening every day somewhere. I wonder about whether the group of people who were at these parties need some group counseling to deal with the loss as well as its meaning for them. Schools and communities usually have specialized counselors who come in at times like this, and I would encourage your son to take advantage of that along with the counseling for himself and your family privately.

You know this seems like one of those teachable moments, especially between father and son, about what it means to be a man, and that crying isn't a weakness. Perhaps he will let you in before too long, but I wouldn't let him stay alone in his room for a long time. He may be feeling some guilt even though this wasn't the party he went to. And you don't know what other thoughts he might be having. Too much isolation isn't a good. I'm surprised the counselor didn't offer to talk with him on the phone, but I don't know what the relationship is with her. Plus he may think as a female she can't understand.

It's a hard and sad lesson for all of you to learn, but it's part of why some of us came down hard last time. Just be grateful this didn't happen to your son, but please don't let him isolate. Go in his room and share maybe sometimes when you have cried when you were younger, and acknowledge that's it is harder for men to show their feelings. But you also want to hear what else he's thinking, because guilt and depression can lead to tragedies, too. I know you're doing all you can. Definitely a painful and scary situation all around.

Hugs to all of you,

PaLady
Posted 5/27/2009 10:16 PM (GMT 0)
Sam all I can say is How sorry I am that your son has to go through this. You all will be in my prayers and I hope he comes up for air soon and start to recover from this upsetting time in his life.

Laurie
Posted 5/28/2009 1:32 AM (GMT 0)
Sam,

I am so sorry to hear about this girl & for your son's loss. It most certainly is a tragedy, and an unfortunate lesson for your son. I am terribly sorry that someone had to die, but at least this will solidify the dangers of stealing and taking unprescribed medication, and especially mixing (potentially unknown) medications. My sympathies for your loss.

Skeye
Posted 5/28/2009 8:57 PM (GMT 0)
Sam, I just wanted to check on you and your son. I hope he has come out of the isolation and is able to share with you or the counselor. I know it is hard on you seeing him so upset and the fact that he is having such a hard time with this. Men do cry. It doesn't show weakness. Actually, it shows growth and maturity. Emotions are not only for women.

I will continue to think about you and your son. Please let us know how things are going,when you feel up to it. You know, we are here for you, if and when you need us.
Anice
Posted 5/28/2009 10:08 PM (GMT 0)
My son has come out of his room and we ae going to go and see the consulor tomorrow morning at 9:00 am, he is still very upset but he is trying to hide it, We are just going tolet him mourn in his own way and see what the counsular tomorrow
Posted 5/28/2009 10:09 PM (GMT 0)
Sam, this is tragic indeed and takes a toll on the friends and fellow partiers of the young woman. I too would encourage you to have your son talk to the counselor. It might even be a good step to allow him to meet with the counselor alone. You probably already know that the senerio of your son withdrawing as he deals with the grief is probably palying out in the homes of other young people in the community. If you find out about meetings in the community or scoll for young people to meet and find support let your son know as that could help him to know that you care. Parties like the ones that you describe are not that uncommon today. Keep us updated as to how you and your son are doing.

Posted 5/29/2009 1:11 AM (GMT 0)
It gives me the shivers to realise how many drugs are out there in the general community now and how avaiable they seem to be to young people. What a dreadful experience for your son and for you too. I truely hope the councellor has some words of wisdom to help your son grieve as well as sort out the mixed emotions he must be feeling. Thoughts are with you, golitho
Posted 5/29/2009 4:26 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Sam,

I am truly sorry to read about this young woman's passing. PA Lady is right , this is exactly why we were so "tough" in some of our responses, because it can and does happen every day .

It's tragic that this young woman lost her life and her family will be left to grieve, and whom ever brought those pills to the party may find themselves facing charges if they can locate where they came from.

Blessings to her and her family, and to you and yours. This is one of those teaching moments , both about how it can happen to you, or someone that you know, and that grieving is normal.....

Sandi

Posted 5/29/2009 10:24 PM (GMT 0)
Sam,

My thoughts are with you and your son as well. Truly a tragedy and I can certainly understand your son's response. With time and prayers, I hope he will get through this and come to realize it was not his fault. His thinking was not totally squared away over all the decisions he made. He needs to move forward and get on with his life and without the use of drugs.

He has you and you are a giant support system for him. Thank God he has you!

I will pray for you all and for the girl as well and her family too.

Lindaloo
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