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Posted 6/26/2009 7:30 AM (GMT 0)
I want to Thank all of you for all the support you have given me!  Last week was both good and well lets just say trying for me. I was suppose to go up and visit my daughter on Thursday last week after my refill appointment with my Pain Doctor! Which by the way I talked to him about my pain meds not lasting the entire 12 hours and I was constantly waking up in pain around 3 am, so he changed my Oxycontin from every 12 hours to every 8 hours, and I am happy to report that has helped a great deal!

Anyway I was not able to leave on Thursday as originally planned, as I spent the day, changing my locks on my house, and talking with my Lawyer. My wife moved out last week, and my daughter and her husband who will not speak to me came down to help her move out. Well Wednesday the 17th many people from my wifes work place and  my oldest daughter and her husband, all came that evening to move her things out and over to her house that she is renting in town. My wife had come early to make sure we agreed on what she was to take. Unfortunately my oldest daughter thought her mom should have everything and was determined that she was going to take and load everything up on the truck!  Well when I told her that the things she was packing was to stay,  things got a little testy with  my daughter and her husband. I won't go into details, but  I  finally had to ask them to leave, and then I even ended up  having to theaten to call the sherif and have them removed from my home! In the end, my soon to be ex got them to leave! But  after that incident I had to make sure the house and my belongings were secure before I could go on my trip to see my youngest daughter and her husband and of course my Granddaughter! I can't even begin to describe how I feel about how my oldest daughter is handling this divorce, to say the least I am disappointed, and hurt by her actions.

 Anyway so instead of leaving on Thursday I left on Friday! It is a 465 mile drive up there and it was worth it! I had a Great time, my Granddaugher is 19 months old and is a real pistol! She really kept her Grandpa on his toes! smilewinkgrin   Of course I had Todo their Westie Dog sleep on me in the recliner, every time I go up there, he is my constant companion! Maybe it is my white beard that makes him think I am like him???  It was a nice relief from the ordeal  that I went thru with my oldest on the 17th I was really glad I went up there! Well now you know the rest of the story!

White Beard

Posted 6/26/2009 8:19 AM (GMT 0)

Hi WhiteBeard,

Welcome back home!!! You were missed sorely here on the forum but that trip to see your daughter and grandbaby was top priority. I am so glad that you made the trip to see them. I know it did you a world of good. Isn't it amazing how those little ones can make us forget if we feel bad, there is some kind of energy that is exchanged and its incredible. Your little one is at the toddler stage and they are just so darn cute and funny. They really can be our best medicine I am convinced. I know how my little guy makes me feel and there is nothing like it.

So glad to hear your dr changed up how to take your medication. You know you are so lucky to have a dr that actually listens to you. I have one of the same and I tell her every time I see her how thankful I am that she is my dr. She keeps reminding me the pain will increase as time goes by and I become tolerant to the setting of my pump and she knows my activity level has made an incredible jump which will increase the pain. But, she looks at me and grins and says "I can take care of that". Its great comfort is all I can say.

I am very sorry to hear how things went with your daughter and s-i-l, but for some reason I am not really surprised either. I only say this because of her past behavior since you and your wife split up. I remember her thinking she was entitled to information about the split that was really none of her business. I know that was definetly additional stress that you did not need, but please, please try not to let this get to you. I know its extremely hard because she is your daughter. All I will say is she needs to act like an adult about this divorce and get over it. No, she is not a kid any longer, she is an adult and needs to handle herself that way. Hopefully time will take care of this, but unless she has a major attitude adjustment, you may be in for the long haul. Regardless, I know you are very hurt and you have a right to feel this way. Once things settle down and the air clears, it may be time to sit down and write your daughter a letter.

Anyway, welcome back home!!!!

Posted 6/26/2009 11:27 AM (GMT 0)
Welcome back Whitebeard,

You were sorely missed. Glad you got a chance to visit your daughter and granddaughter. That's the world's best medicine--those grandchildren!!

Sorry about the stress over your divorce. I too, have a daughter that can be inappropriate at times, so I know what that's like. It's never comfortable. I pray for God's blessings for you and your family.

Take care and keep posting here. We need your sage input.

Lindaloo
Posted 6/26/2009 11:34 AM (GMT 0)
Whitebeard,

Welcome back! I'm sorry to read what happened with your daughter and son in law. I'm truly sorry for the hurt that I know that it caused ,  and will continue to cause.

I'm glad that your doctor increased the frequency of the dosage. When I was on oxycontin/oxycodone, I got much better relief with the every 8 hour dosing than I did at the 12 hour dosing schedule.

I hope that you continue to find it that way for yourself.

It sounds like your visit with your younger daughter, grandbaby and son in law were much needed at this time. I'm glad that it went well. Grandbabies tend to bring out the best of belly laughs when we need them the most.

Glad to see you back amongst us. You were missed.

Sandi

Posted 6/26/2009 1:25 PM (GMT 0)

Hi WhiteBeard,

Welcome HOME!!  We missed you.....I'm so sorry for all you went through, but now you can begin to relax, you are alone in your home, your meds are adjusted and you had a wonderful visit with your youngest and her family!  It can only get better for you!

((((((((((((((((WB))))))))))))))))

XXOO
Patti

Posted 6/26/2009 1:50 PM (GMT 0)
Hey, WHITEBEARD, welcome back. Nice to have a bit more more testosterone to add to the mix.

Sorry to hear how your vacation started, but VERY glad to hear how it ended for you. I don't have kids or grandkids, but I keep hearing those who do have them declare that their grandkids (anything under about 20) are THE delight of their lives, so 1 1/2 should be the best of the best I would guess.

Well, I'm officially a mask head or whatever you called it. Got my system late last week; biPap-ASV Complex. I REALLY appreciate everything you passed along in this regard. No doubt I'll have some questions - hope you won't mind if I take advantage of your knowledge a bit more.

Again, Welcome Back. You were missed in many ways. I'm glad you got your generator rebuilt and battery refilled. I imagine it won't be too long before you are off galivanting around the world; in the meantime we'll enjoy your company.
Posted 6/27/2009 1:22 AM (GMT 0)
Hi White Beard!

Boy, did we all miss you! Welcome back! I'm glad to hear that your doc changed your meds around & that you are feeling more comfortable now. I am so sorry to hear about the situation with your oldest, though. I can't even imagine how tough, how heartbreaking that must be for you! Going through all of this with your wife, is probably hard enough, but then to have your daughter not speak to you, and worse! Just know that you have a LOT of people here who care about you. Hopefully your daughter will come around one day & realize what a good father you were/are & that she is missing out on a lot. It's great that you were able to spend time with your other daughter & granddaughter though. I know that you are very proud of both of your daughters! I'm sure the visit really helped to comfort you after those few bad days!

Welcome back, again! We missed you tons!

Skeye
Posted 6/27/2009 1:39 AM (GMT 0)
      Dear Whitebeard,

 

    Don't have much to say other than "Hi! Glad you are in one peice after all that!" And I was thinking to myself (thou i know nothing of your relationship with your odest daughter) *Oh shes a mustang all right! * :-)  

      Then when I was reading about how young your grandaughter is.. Gosh arnt they just the cutest little bumblebees at that age? So busy its hard to keep up with 'em! *sigh* Its a lil envy, ill admitt it :-)   Glad you had a good time :-)

*huggs*

dani

Posted 6/27/2009 5:41 AM (GMT 0)
White Beard,
I love edt's comment - welcome HOME! You definitely were missed!

It sounds like you're handing the huge change in your life as well as possible. It's going to have its rough spots, like with your oldest, but I also like to hope she will come around in time. I'm so glad your youngest didn't react that way, and that you had what sounds like a wonderful visit!

I had a Westie many moons ago. They're so cute! I hope right now you can just relax a bit before making big decisions or tackling major problems. You definitey deserve a break from building porches and such!

Hugs,

PaLady
Posted 6/27/2009 3:20 PM (GMT 0)
PALady

There is a story to to Todo the Westie, He suddenly appeared at their farm a few years ago, he was all straggly and unkept and hungry, Carolyn put some food out for him, and he would just sit on their porch. Matt her husband told her not to feed him, but he just would not leave. So she took him in and gave him a bath and put adds in the paper and went around to all the Vets and posted about finding this dog. The bad thing was he had no collar or tags, the one Vet said he was probably dumped off the interstate   90 which is only a mile or so from their house. Anyway when she got no response to her postings, and we came up to visit right after he appeared at their farm, I encouraged her to keep him. Well her husband softened up and the dog kind of won him over, and their other dog Camie really took a shining to him, so they took him to the Vet and had him get all the shots! My daughter thought the dog was very old, but the Vet said he was only 2 years at the most, and the Vet thought he was a pure breed Westie. My daughter wanted me to take him but at that time we still had Moggie, ( a mixed terrier) we had to have him put down, a year or so ago at the  ripe old age of 19 years. And of course my wife did not want to have another dog, and by this time even though my daughter  again asked me if I wanted him, and I do like him allot!  His home  now is with my daughters family, and I just could not take him and break-up those bonds! But everytime I go up their Todo stays with me the entire time!  In a since he is my dog!  But even when I first saw him and he was just hanging out at their farm, he kind of adopted me!  Anyway when I go up there he is my Buddy! I will post pictures at Chutzies hubbies web site!

Thanks for all your support! and that applies to everyone( You are my Family!)

White Beard

 

Posted 6/27/2009 3:34 PM (GMT 0)
Welcome back!! We missed you SO much!!! I'm so glad you spend quality time with your youngest and granddaughter. Regarding your oldest daughter I will have to say parents who divorce regardless of their age will and can react as a child. Age is irrelevant when it comes to divorce. Hopefully someday her pain and hurt will subside when she realizes her parents needed to do this.

But once again part of our family has returned. Have fun catching up on the threads you missed and all of them need your attention with your wonderful advice.

Laurie
Posted 6/28/2009 5:49 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Whitebeard:

I am so happy your back, you were missed very much!

It just wasn't the same without you!

Lorie
Posted 6/28/2009 2:58 PM (GMT 0)
Hey W.B> Sorry to read about your daughter & her husband being unreasonable, that whole mess sounds really unfortunate and painful. Welcome back buddy and congrads on your K-9 buddy! Sounds like you can use a furry friend, nothing like a pooch to give you total unbias love! Hang in there my friend, time will heal the wounds eventually.
Your unemployed friend,
Pete
Posted 6/28/2009 5:03 PM (GMT 0)
Even tho you have been through the ringer it looks as if the worst may be behind you! But more important we are so happy you are back and had a great visit with that grandbaby. Nothing warms your heart and helps you forget your troubles like holding that baby in your arms. ahhhh I can just smell the aroma of a freshly bathed baby with some nice powder on the toochie...lol

Glad you're back with your family!
Chutzie
Posted 6/29/2009 1:06 AM (GMT 0)
Whitebeard,

I am glad you are back. I am trying to hang in there but some days are hard.

cshelp
Posted 6/29/2009 1:30 AM (GMT 0)
cshelp

Then share the burden of your hard days with us! Maybe it will help lighten your load, and make things easier for you! I am listening as I am sure everyone else is to! So how can we help you cshelp?

White Beard
Posted 6/29/2009 1:42 AM (GMT 0)

WhiteBeard, I have not taken the time to say it is great to have you back with us. I know how the family things go when there is a divorce or a death. My father was married 4 times and my mother twice. All my natural siblings have been married and divorced at least several times. When my parents died, I had the role as the executor of their wills. That was difficult as their spouses resented the fact that I was the executor and it was messy with many hard feelings. What I can say is that the old saying that time heals all wounds might be true but the scars remain. I wish you inner healing as I know the whole issue is not over.

I agree with the sediments of others here, while you were out dealing with personal issues, you were missed.

Posted 6/29/2009 8:37 PM (GMT 0)
WhiteBeard
so glad your back you were missed, glad you had a nice visit with your younger daughter..
hugz.
((((((((((((((((WhiteBeard))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Posted 6/29/2009 10:23 PM (GMT 0)
WhiteBeard I love to Todo story, its so funny what those four legged guys will do. Even more so the things they will remember, such as you being his pal,lol. I would be lost without my three I will tell you. They keep me busy one way or the other. One of the three may have cancer and he is my boy, he is about 12 yrs old. He was a stray that came to my door. I have had him since 2000, and he is the most loyal boy I have ever seen. The other two are one yr old and two years old, they are big buddies. Its a real three ring circus here some days.
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