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Hi I'm Ditzy75 and I'm new not sure wot I'm doing ...lol but that's me most of time     well I'm 35 told I have Lumbar Spondylosis, facet joint dysfunction I have had it for 10 yrs only been diagonosed in last 4. I have chronic pain in my lower back, buttocks leg foot up spine and shoulder and neck, I get numbness pins and needles and my left leg often gives way I usually walk with a crutch but do have some good days. I have just come off morphine and on to Lyrica 300mg twice daily plus co codamol and cymbalta for my depression. I can't work as there is no job I can do I need to move about sit stand lay sleep alot...    . I'm going through a divorce and live with my new partner whom I love dearly only thing that keeps me going. I get so down and lonely !!!

 

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Post Edited By Moderator (Dani Henson) : 6/17/2010 10:08:05 AM (GMT-6)

Hi Ditzy75, and welcome! So sorry for your pain and the other sruggles you are dealing with! This is a wonderful place to be! Everyone here is like family and some of them are family....LOL! My sister is damouthy1 that posted above me! This group is full of amazing people who understand and will be hear to listen and help you through some of the tough times! I am also pretty new here but they have all helped me soooo much! Stick around, you will be glad you did!

Take care of you,
Beckey

Hi Ditzy75

And welcome to HW..i also am pretty new to this site as well...Im very sry pain has brought you here..like the posts above me..pain i believe has brought most of us here...This is a wonderful site with people that actually understand your pain and offer advice and support despite the pain they endure themselves..pain can take alot of things from you...but one thing it didnt take is the hearts of these people here...They have helped me very much .. this last month or so..listening to me vent and complain..offering an ear and support and advice...So please stick around you will be thankful you did

Best of Luck and hope your pain gets less for you

Brenda

Welcome, welcome, welcome. I too, want to congratulate you for finding this forum. As the others have said, this is the collection of the most wonderful people in the world. I hope you find this site as rewarding and comforting as I have as well.

Please continue to post and let us know all about you and get to know each of us.

Have a low pain day.

Lindaloo

Hi Ditzy!

Wanted to stop by and say Hello and welcome! I'm sure you will find this forum family to be very supportive and compassionate. I know they have helped me through so many hurdles even when they didn't know it.

Hope you have fun on your picnic!

Warm hugs,
Chutz

 

   Dear Donna,

 

     Good evening *warm hugg* It is good to hear from you. I am glad you stopped by. Hopefully, you will be fast asleep right now..but I worry you probably arnt. I am so very sorry your life is in such a whirl-wind. Isnt it awfull how emotional pain can make your chronic pain feel even worse?? *sigh* Good news is that the CBT will help. I loved mine. I was worried and scared at first, you know all the taboo around psychology... but it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I hope your experience is good too.

 

    I am so sorry your family is torn and worse, are placing such a heavy burdon on your shoulders. Have you ever thought about family counseling with your daughter and brother? Or maybe start up a once monthly activity that involes all of you getting together for a day? Like a family BBQ, or maybe a "movie and brunch" day? I can tell plain as day that the turmoil between you, your daughter, brother hurts you alot. I am so sorry *warm huggs*

 

     Your fiance sounds like he is afraid of what is going on with you. I remember how scared my husband and I were when I first became sick. I just wanted to run away, and be hugg and loved all at the same time. He wanted to fix it and make it all "Ok" somehow. Finally one day I said "I NEED you to hugg me and love me even when I am pushing you away! Can't you see I am scared?!?!". When is the last time you and your finace sat down and enjoyed one anothers company? Like a date night or "saturday night out"? Or sat and talked about what you really "need" from him to feel better? Ways that he could really "help" you? Sorry for all the questions. I know you have alot on your plate right now..But, I want you to remember that chronic pain changes who you are as a person, and sometimes we need to get to know our loved ones all over again because we ourselves have changed into a different person.

 

     Most of all I want you to know that you can do this. Your life has you going through so many changes all at once, but with your drive, and dedication you can get through this! One step at a time, one deep breath at a time. Please know you are in our prayers here. Stay strong!

 

*warm huggs*

      dani