underthebus,
I can completely understand what you mean. I don't want to get harsh with my mom either. Last night we were on the phone and I was trying to grocery shop, and had to get oldest daughter and her friend from a school dance, I had a horrible day at work(to the point I would have quit if i could), my mom was telling me how my 18 year old, college student, shouldn't get his own place. Oh and I shouldn't be grocery shopping after all the dr. just put me on weight restrictions, my hubby who works 55+ hours a week and is gone every night should have done it. I'm thinking ok, I get it. Then in the middle of that I'm checking out and my atm card won't go through after they had already bagged all the groceries...I'm trying to tell her to hold on so i can deal with this and she's on and on about how my son and his girlfriend could be having sex at his house if he has his own place. Finally, I got short with her and said you know they probably do now..I mean come on. I didn't need it. I finally told her I have to get off here. I feel bad. I didn't call her back. My stress levels are through the roof..ugh if I had money I'd take a trip..nope can't do that. Good luck with you's I know you'll need it!! 
Chutz,
I am so sorry to hear about your father, your mother as well. That had to be such a difficult time in your life!! It is so hard when you are going through your stuff and see what they are going through. It makes you feel like with all that they have to endure is it really appropriate to complain about my stuff? I don't know, I guess it's just difficult all the way around,ya know? I used to write poems and stories and let it all flood out that way but writing here seems to let my frustrations ease, besides no time to write any other way. Take care .
Skeye,
I'm sorry you have had to experience this as well. It's a very scary situation. I never know the right thing to say or do. It doesn't help that I had all these test this week because I felt like just hiding it all, or just spilling it all. I don't know if I should even burden her with it. She acts like she wants to know but then forgets the conversation. The next time we talk she asked again or gets it all confused(I know it's because of stress) I hate to get frustrated about that but I don't want to rehash it all over again. Well take care. Heather