pain killers and not being able to....uh.....you-know-what

Sorry to hear that you can't enjoy the big O!..Are you on other medications besides Tramadol?

The reason I ask is I'm not aware of this side effect from being on narcotics..

I have taken Tramadol in the past....and now I am on MS Contin and OxyIR...and haven't had this as a problem..

Umm...let's see how I should ask this keeping things PG...but can you get there on your own? Is this just with your partner?

Again..I haven't noticed this particular issue although I happen to have a really high drive in this dept. and no matter how much pain I am in...I always make time and effort for nookie!..LOL..as well as getting to the good stuff at the end:) It's always helped my pain level!!

So..I would first find out if this is also something that you can't achieve on your own..and speak to your Dr. ..Don't be shy with them...they have heard everything and recognize the need for healthy intimacy..

It will be interesting to see what others say..

It's possible that it is the Xanax causing it to be more difficult...Changes in the way people enjoy intimacy are listed as a side effect since Xanax is effecting parts of the brain that have to do with excitement (hence it's use for treating anxiety)...

The good news is that you can physically reach that place.

So maybe talking to the Dr. about this and seeing what he says as obviously I am taking guesses...lol

Unfortunately with any medicine we take...there are side effects...we have to decide the pros/cons of these..

I hope that you are able to share this with your hubby as well and see if being creative can help...

Post Edited (Snowbunny21) : 5/23/2011 4:37:12 PM (GMT-6)

Thanks SE...I was thinking that this was a bit different not just being 'in the mood' to be intimate...since she mentions that her libido is still high but more about actually acheiving the big O:)...

So that is why I was thinking more of the Xanax being an issue...

Thanks SE and snow bunny for........... that

Hmmm, I didn't know gabapentin prevents hot flashes, but what would I get those for?

Bonnie, did you ask your doctor if it was the gabapentin preventing the O?

I wonder if anyone has asked a doctor, I mean, what would a doctor have to say about a woman not being able to have an O??

I just can't imagine....my doc is so....well, blunt, he'd prolly just be like, "oh well, you get side effects with meds"

I just wonder if there's any supplements or anything........

Hello Blondie, so glad you asked that question, if you look back one or two months ago I asked the same question.

I am really not sure you can get your libido back, the narc. meds, while numbingI our pain, also numb all other feelings.  As for other ways, just let me say I have almost gotten carpul tunnel syndrom in my arms from trying and just not reaching  that ribbon at the end of the merry-go-round.

I had mentioned in my first post, I have been celibate for at least 10 years.  Thing is I was in the grips of menopause, so had no real interest, I was busy trying not to melt.  Secondly, I have and always have had very poor taste in men.  At 42, I gave up because I no longer trusted my taste in men, and well, for reasons stated above.

Hopefully you will find a way around that problem, I will be 58 very soon.  I am so over that part of my life, if you are still young, then hopefully the scientist who work so hard to make men in there 70s-80s, well you know.  They can absolutley find something for us.

Good luck, hope you are well.

 

I have noticed that with antidepressants and gabapentin that it does affect my libido. I suggest that you talk with your doctor about it and get advice from there too. Also, if I look at it the right way, it just becomes something to keep life from getting stagnant and doing the same old thing.
I do hope it gets better!
Mindy

That's why I was curious about the Xanax...since I read that it affects one's 'excitability' and oxytocin levels....if you don't have extreme anxiety issues...it may be taking away too much of your ability to enjoy things..

Do you find that you don't feel as much joy or laugh as much lately as well?

This happened to me when I took Cymbalta...I didn't have depression...and was using it for the nerve pain...but it went too far and took away my emotions....didn't change my libido at all just like you...that is more about hormones which are fine...It was about my experience of 'life'...I barely cried at things or laughed ...I felt just ..'blahhhh'...

So when I went off the medicine...I felt like my normal self again...and able to enjoy things again...

I realize that I have my 'down days' when I am frustrated or upset about my pain...but I don't have clinical depression so the medicine was just too much for me..

I hope you are able to talk to your Dr. about it...They SHOULD care about your life as a whole as intimacy is an important factor in the enjoyment of a marriage..

So I wasn't crazy. When I was on different pain meds and muscle relaxers it could have effected more than just my back? And I thought I was grouchy because the meds didn't always work. The drive was always there, it was the destination that didn't get reached all the time. Now that I'm no longer on pain meds or muscle relaxers there's been no problem, but I just thought it was because I didn't have as much meds in my system. I didn't realize that what I had in my system could have been the problem.

Hi Snowbunny, sorry I meant to be more specific I was in a hurry...

Yes, like, what do you take & when? and what are your symptoms/dx's?

I mean, I've read your signature that tells what you've had, but was just looking for more detail...

Thanks!

blondie

Really? Cool! but aren't you a guy....? I think it may be different for men....but if you think it'll work it's worth a try. where do you get it? Nutrition Works or something?

blondie