Hello, you poor kid, you have really been through a lot. I think Straydog hit it right on the head, sometimes you have to get very forceful. This is after all your life, your body. Also to my great surprise I totally agree with the good Dr. Requiem.
Its basically the luck of the draw when it comes to pm doctors. Heres the important thing, if you are not happy with the pm you have, fire him/her and find another one. Believe me, I know this is a big pain. But when it comes to your health, you have to make sure you can have a good conversation with your doctor, pm doctors in particular as they will most likely be the doctors you will see the most.
Back some 12+ years ago, my pcp treated my pain and he was great, since I had been a patient of his almost from the start of my back problems, its just seemed easier. He attempted to send me to a few pain management doctors, but he became so irritated with them, he just finally said, forget it, I will just treat you myself. Then in December 2006, he got an offer as he said "he couldnt refuse" he had 2 kids to get through college, the job was to good for him to pass up. He left me with 3 months worth of prescriptions, we cried, (well I did) said goodbye and then began the next 4 1/2 years of well hell.
In September 2009 I found what by now was my 5th pm doctor, I wont bore you with all the pm doctors stories before I found the one I have now, but I would not wish that on my worst enemy. So after filling out 12 pages of information and giving him my firstborn (lol), I found a wonderful doctor, who also has a wonderful staff. The first appt. I had with him, he was so nice and compassionate I cryed, with joy.
So they are out there, you just have to find them, and your life will become much easier to manage.
Good Luck to you, hope you will be feeling well soon,
Kathy/nini53