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Posted 11/24/2011 11:57 AM (GMT 0)
I didn't want to hijack a thread. But your post hit a sore spot for me.

Your boys and for that matter nobody deserves to be bullied like they are.

I've dealt with several issues with my children being bullied, physical, emotional and racial.

Almost every state has anti bullying laws for the schools. I'll post the link for you to check your state at the end of this post.

You and your boys are not alone because unfortunatly it happens all to often. And I'll also bet the same children bullying your boys are also doing it to others. Children can be cruel and its unfortunate because they learn it in their own home. Chances are they may being bullied themselves.

I had to put 1 of my children in therapy due to bullying. Keep an eye on those precious boys of yours. Give them lots of love.

olweus.org/public/bullying_laws.page
Posted 11/28/2011 9:17 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you for sharing the link, and the support.

I feel alone in a sea of people wanting us to just go away and not rock the boat. Some of the parents whose children are being bullied actually think this kid is nice, because he is when adults are around. He is not stupid! Most of the kids are afraid of him, and afraid to talk to the teachers and principals because he has not gotten in trouble so often that they have lost hope.

My next step along with the court case it to take our story to the media if nothing is done for the latest antics. Its just so sad, watching my son fill out the victim report for the court, too embarrassed by it to think about telling the court how he really feels.

We made an appointment for counseling next week, the soonest they had, and I will pay for the counselor to show up in court and state that my son needs counseled because of the boy's bullying. Its just out of hand. The kid lives next door, and now some of the parents who have known us for years actually believe my sons are stealing, despite evidence that they are not, and the evidence that the bully was the culprit of the rumor and theft.

Adults who simply shake their heads and allow me to fight this, backing me, but unwilling to step forward and do it themselves make me mad. If we stuck together this would be so much better for all our kids, but they are afraid of making the parents mad and having to deal with the stuff we are, poop slung at out windows, the rumors about the kids and us, and the slurs we endure whenever they are outside.

I wonder where he gets it from? Can you feel my sarcasm?
Posted Yesterday 2:52 AM (GMT 0)
Those who want you to stop "rocking the boat" on the bullying issue should stop and look what happened recently in a small town not too far from where I live.

A 10 year old took her own life because no one took her seriously enough about the bullying she was receiving.

today.msnbc.msn.com/id/45354766/ns/today-parenting/t/mom-bullying-drove-my--year-old-girl-suicide/

There is just one of the news reports. If you Google Ridgefarm, IL bullying you can find 100's more.

Do what you need to do to protect your kids. If that means sinking the boat then go for it.

If you are not doing it already I would start keeping a log of every incident, of every time you lodge a complaint and who you spoke to, etc, etc. Having specific names, dates, times, etc will help support your cause.
Posted Yesterday 7:08 AM (GMT 0)
I agree with Jim....this is out of hand no child should feel like taking their own life. This is out of control. Sink the darn boat. Your son's are lucky they have a mom willing to fight for them...the other parents should be ashamed of themselves.


Bless you all
Amy



Chronic pain(nerve), fibro and mild depression
Posted Yesterday 9:14 AM (GMT 0)
Mindy,

I'm so sorry you and your sons are going through this. I really am. But I would do whatever I needed to in order to advocate for them. Remove them from school.... have a few choice words w/ the parents.... media.... courts.... whatever it took. This is a ZERO tolerance area Kids should have the right to go to school, feel safe and not worry about "Joe Blow" threatening them.

Don't just go away and don't worry about rocking the boat. In the end, your kids will see that you stood up for them - and that will be priceless to them - even though they may not understand it now. I would be rocking the boat LOUD and CLEAR. I know you don't fee well, and that this takes even more energy from us. But at times - we need to do it.

I know this isn't an easy thing to do..... and I know the answers aren't so cut and dry.... but this is ridiculous. Please keep us update and lean on us for any support that you need. I hate to hear this :( NO child - I repeat, NO child needs to endure this.

My blood pressure is up. Love, Tina
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