home alone

Hello Whome,

I wanted to welcome you to our chronic pain forum. I am glad you found us but sorry you are dealing with chronic pain.

Yes, dealing with this pain on a daily basis makes for a lonely life. Chronic pain has changed me in many ways. I have lost my dream job, friends have left me, i am at home alone most of the time, anything i might do is alone. It's not easy that's for sure, so i do understand your feelings.

Can you tell us a bit about your history of chronic pain.

Myself I have been dealing with severe 24/7 headaches for more than twelve years. i have tried and done everything possible but nothing has touched this pain. The last four years have been the most difficult and it wasn't until this past january when i made a conscious decision that if this was the way it was going to be then i better get my butt out of bed, stop crying and try to get myself in a happier place. and so i did, got by into my scrapbooking and getting out of the house, going to the gym, even if it was alone, at least it was a distraction from the pain and i wasn't crying.

It's not to say that there aren't any bad days because there certainly is. But in making this decision I think i can honestly say that on the most part i am coping better.

My motto is to take it one day at a time. It's all i can do.

I hope in sharing some of this with you that it will give you some strength and courage to continue this battle, this chronic pain journey.

I hope you will keep posting with us. come and share or even if you need to vent.

The members here are very caring and understanding and we all get what this pain does to our lives.

Take care,

Suzane

Welcome Whome, Glad to see you found the Chronic Pain (CP) Forum. Chronic pain can put you at home alone at times. So, Seeking out support is a good way to make some friends, learn along the way, and in a way will give you something to do. Hobbies can definitely help to keep your mind busy. We all know how frustrating CP can be and how much it has changed each of our lives. Your the only one that knows your limitations so you are the only one that can say what is right for you but I'm sure others will pop in and give you support on how to deal with being home bound.

And definitely open up and let us know what your health issues are so we can help support you more.

Good Luck,
D.

Whome

I can understand why you feel so lonely suffering from chronic pain. It robs you of life as you knew it, you discover what real friends are and makes you feel that everything is pointless. Everyone here knows just how you feel.

I don't live alone, I have an amazing husband but we moved to a new city eight years ago and because of my pain I seldom get out and as a result I have never really made any friends here. I went through a long time of just not being able or wanting to get out of bed in the morning, even now I have days like that. I hate myself for it but can't help myself. I am trying at the moment to be like Suzanne, just get out of bed and try to do something every day, knitting, sewing, puzzles etc. I am still struggling but improving.

So from the bottom of my heart I understand. You have taken a major step by posting here. It would be good to know more about you. I live in the UK, I have had problems for ,more than twenty years now. Began with knee problems and many failed ops. Now I have back problems too, two surgeries since January, one hasn't worked so I face another. In between I broke my leg and have caused arthritis in my knee and need a replacement. I am far from alone in this forum. We are all fighting pain every day and truly understand how it feels.

I can promise you that you will get lots of support and understanding here, the members are lovely and very caring.

Take care, hope you come back soon

Jane