I am another mom who had to make the difficult decision about
using pain medications during pregnancy. Like Mom, I didn't discover that I was even pregnant with one child until I was over 10 weeks pregnant, and was on many different meds, more than 18 for RSD.....thankfully, my PM doctor was well versed in managing pregnancy on pain meds, and my ob-gyn was well familiar with my medical history and I was promptly referred to a high risk pregnancy perinatalogist as well, and had my other children's pediatrician and another specialized peditrician , all involved in my care and that of my unborn children. ALL of them agreed that my stopping my medications would be highly dangerous , for me and my ability to carry my children to term and ultimately my children ....and while I ultimately made the decision to immediately stop most of the medications, I did have to remain on a couple during the remainder of my pregnancy- and I reduced those to the lowest possible dose.
It is NEVER an easy decision, because despite every safety precaution , my oldest son spent several weeks in NICU and I lived with horrible guilt over doing that to him for many years and even now, comments from someone who has never had to make that type of decision about continuing a pregnancy where a child has already been exposed to medications, and then stopping the meds or continuing them with the recommendations of the best doctors around, can send me into a tail spin of emotional turmoil.
That being said, I still believe to this day that we all made the decision that we all felt was best in the situation that I was in. And my sons, thankfully are well, and healthy.
There are some meds that are safer than others, and some that are absolutely not safe at all during pregnancy but while the orginal poster has an advantage that Mom and I both did not have, and that is the ability to talk to all of her doctors ahead of an actual pregnancy. Mom and I both found ourselves already pregnant, and having already having the decision about taking those meds made in a sense for us because we were already almost out of the first trimester when we discovered our pregnancies.